“You don’t hear me” isn’t an attack, it’s a CLUE.
🔔 Validation Lowers Defensiveness
Here’s the hard truth:
When someone says “You don’t hear me” or “You never understand me,” they’re not trying to win an argument.
They’re asking for relief.
Behind every complaint is a desire:
➡️ To be understood
➡️ To feel safe
➡️ To matter
Here’s the part most adults don’t want to hear 👇
If you jump straight to fixing, defending, or correcting,…you increase defensiveness.
Validation doesn’t mean agreement.
It means you slowed down long enough to see them.
See you in the comments! 💬
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“You don’t hear me” isn’t an attack, it’s a CLUE.
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