True Growth is about putting in the internal work. We spend so much time working outside or inside our home, but we spend so little time investing in our own soul and mind. Notice there will be lies associated with these attachment styles... you can start today, declaring the truth. Also if you are curious about which style is yours or you would like to take a simple 2 min quiz to find out click here: https://claude.ai/public/artifacts/f087872b-9910-4632-9dfe-8322b6f510d2 Secure attachment People with this style are generally comfortable with intimacy and independence. They can trust others, communicate needs directly, and handle conflict without much anxiety. Roughly half of people fall into this category in most studies. Anxious (or anxious-preoccupied) attachment This style tends to involve a strong desire for closeness paired with worry about whether the relationship is secure. People may seek frequent reassurance, feel very sensitive to a partner's mood or availability, and sometimes interpret distance as rejection. Avoidant (or dismissive-avoidant) attachment People with this style often value independence highly and can feel uncomfortable with too much closeness or emotional dependence. They may downplay the importance of relationships, prefer self-reliance, and pull back when things get intense. Fearful-avoidant (or disorganized) attachment This is often described as a mix of anxious and avoidant patterns — wanting closeness but also fearing it, sometimes linked to inconsistent or difficult early experiences. People may feel conflicted, swinging between wanting connection and pushing it away. Each Attachment style can have usual lies that the people believe about themselves, their partner or the relationship that keep them moving in the unhealthy cycle. Secure Secure attachment isn't the absence of fear, it's a different internal narrative, usually built from consistent-enough early caregiving:

The First & Second Joshua (Yeshua) What’s the Most Common mistake Most Christians are making in their walk The Authority of the Believer Spiritual Warfare And More There are very common cycles that most people are currently walking in and it’s so unfortunate but also so possible to see true freedom. Let’s talk tonight and if God has put a specific topic on your heart, put it in the comments and let’s see if we can cover that as well.

I remember a time when I was on a missions trip and I started to argue with the missions leader. It was really bad, but I felt so justified in the moment. I was breaking records and producing more than anyone before me, but my leader was raising his voice in anger, not directly to me, but to the team... even though I knew he was referring to me. He was saying, "Make sure you're doing it how we're supposed to"... He was yelling, and then I would respond raising my voice... but what was really happening? I was crying out to be affirmed. I wanted to be acknowledged. I wanted my success to be praised.... But even deeper... I had daddy wounds... areas in my heart where I didn't feel seen or accepted and his tone and demeanor were coming off to me like rejection. I had attached my worth to my success and because my success was not being praised, I saw it as rejection So I was yelling saying, "ACCEPT ME, PLEASE! ACCEPT MEEEE" 🙂‍↕️ People yell when they don't feel heard. The volume is just their subconscious and conscious way of saying.. I want you to hear my needs. You are not yelling so much for them.... You're yelling out internal fears and wounds. So listen... what are you really saying. Stop blaming the other individual... really you need to look at your internal needs and allow God to fill them. HOW? You need to Speak over yourself what you need.... For me that would be: "I'm Loved, Seen and Accepted" I don't know what you need, but its time to stop putting your internal, invisible wounds on other people and blaming them for not filling your cup. Fill your own cup! Do you need words of affirmation... Speak Life over Yourself. Do you need Quality Time? Spend some deep time with the Lord. Do you enjoy acts of service? Sow that into someone else for the Lord. But your life is no longer going to be blamed on you being a victim of not being loved or cared for. You take the initiative and Speak what you've been looking to receive from others. **Write in the comments something you wish someone would say to you or what you need to hear.**

I'm learning as a New Pastor how to Shepherd. There are three main roles of a natural shepherd: Leading Feeding and Protecting The leading, i'm learning, is just following well. If i'm following Jesus correctly, the sheep will move in the right direction. I don't need to be overbearing or constantly correcting and redirecting... it's actually the Holy Spirit who does those tasks. For a shepherd he uses a tool called a shepherd's crook to lead and redirect but Psalms 23 says The Lord is our Shepherd and his rod and staff comfort us... but rods are used for war and staffs are used to redirect... God can even make correction comforting. Feeding is again the work of the Holy Spirit... I've had the experience of preparing a sermon and I thought it would be an encouraging message, yet the congregation says they were convicted or felt beat up by the word...but if you have a problem child and you preach on their known issue.... it's like their the only one who didn't answer the alter call, didn't respond to the message and actually preferred your previous message. Lol The Holy Spirit is the one feeding... as im seeing... Being a Shepherd is more like being the best lamb... the lamb closest to God. Protecting works like this. If i'm safe... the sheep are safe as long as they stay close and follow instructions, but the Bible says, "Strike the shepherd and the sheep will scatter." If im wounded or overwhelmed then the sheep are in danger. This is showing the importance of my dependency on Christ and not pointing to any authority or skill that I have to lead, guide, protect or feed. The paradox is im learning... to be a good shepherd... I don't need to do more, I actually need to do less. I need to trust that God is working and give him room, making sure not to interfere. No matter who you are reading this... if you have any natural or spiritual authority over another... then these points are true for you. Are you a Father, Mother, Employer or Minister? Then you have a role to play in being a sheep closest to our Shepherd, because this is the beginning of leading... learning how to follow well.

Post a scripture that has a promise you're standing on in the comments 🥳 God's Word is not based on feelings. You are blessed and highly favored, not because you feel that way, but because God says you are. You are the head and not the tail, above and not below. God will supply all your needs according to His riches in glory. No reward or promotion comes without a trial or battle. Are you in a battle my friend? Are you going through a test? Well its not a test of your finances, of your marriage or of your health. The Bible says its a test of your faith. James 1:2-4 "Count it all joy, my brothers, when you meet trials of various kinds, 3 for you know that the testing of your faith produces steadfastness. 4 And let steadfastness have its full effect, that you may be perfect and complete, lacking in nothing." Faith comes by hearing, and hearing by the Word of God. You must declare God's promises over your situation and watch them change. You are the lender, not the borrower, in Jesus' name! Don't look at your situation. We walk by faith, not by sight! I need you to understand this mystery. Your situation is not outside of you; it is created by you and through you. God created all things by His word. You are not someone who borrows; you are someone who lends! Even when you owe money! You must declare this because it is the truth! Jesus said, "I am the way, the truth, and the life; no one comes to the Father except through me." You declare the truth, believe the truth, and reject the lie, no matter how real the lie may seem. That means if you don't have enough... your situation is a lie... because the word of God says "God will supply al of your needs" If you can't sleep.... your situation is a lie... the word says "God gives his beloved rest" Let the word of God be true, and every man a liar. God has placed His Word above His name. If you say you are a debtor, you're poor, you're sick etc, then you are either saying that God is lying, or that His Word does not apply to you.