Let’s Talk About Your To-Do List (Because It’s Being Rude)
I was listening to Ellyn Schinke today, and she casually dropped a truth bomb that felt mildly illegal:
Your to-do list is just a collection spot for ways you could spend your time.
Not a verdict on whether you’re failing at life.
And suddenly I realized…
I’ve been letting my to-do list bully me.
Actually.
I’ve been the bully behind my to-do list.
Oof.
Somewhere along the way, I promoted my to-do list to CEO of my self-worth.
No HR approval.
No background check.
If you open your to-do list and immediately think,
“I suck, I’m so far behind.” This is for you.
Let’s clear something up real quick:
Your to-do list is not your boss.
It is not your therapist.
It is not the Supreme Court of Your Worth.
It’s a list.
On a screen.
Made by you.
It does NOT get to hand out gold stars or shame spirals.
It is NOT a moral report card.
It does NOT get to decide whether you showed up “enough.”
Let’s call this what it is:
Your to-do list is simply a holding space for ideas, tasks, and possibilities.
A place to park things you could do.
Not a list of demands.
Not a threat.
Definitely not a measure of your value as a human.
And if you’re an entrepreneur (or creative human who runs on curiosity, caffeine, and vibes), let’s be honest:
Most of what’s on that list?
Not urgent.
Not on fire.
Not a real deadline.
But we treat it like DEFCON 1.
Then we beat ourselves up for missing deadlines we literally invented.
Here’s the reframe to try on for size (or tattoo on your soul):
Your to-do list is a suggestion box for how you could spend your time.
That’s it.
(Also… does your list even have anything fun on it?)
Reality check:
You are allowed to renegotiate with your own expectations.
You are allowed to move things to tomorrow.
You are allowed to work in seasons instead of sprints.
Most creativity doesn’t thrive under a stopwatch.
It thrives when you stop pressuring or bullying yourself.
So today:
Side-eye your list…
take one gentle breath…
and choose what feels aligned, not what feels loud.
You’re not behind.
You are human.
With a creative mind.
You’re becoming. 💛
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Let’s Talk About Your To-Do List (Because It’s Being Rude)
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