This is where we walk through real messages together. Here's how it works: 1. Anonymize the message (no names, no identifying info) 2. Paste it in a post 3. Share what Compass flagged (or what your gut said) 4. We discuss Example post: --- Received this Saturday morning: "You never respect my time with the kids. I had plans and you knew that. This is exactly why we couldn't make things work. You're impossible." What Compass flagged: - DARVO (deny, attack, reverse victim and offender) - Blame-shifting for the relationship ending - "Always/never" language - No actual request or information, just a character attack What I'm struggling with: Do I respond at all? If so, what do I even say? --- That's the format. Short, specific, and we dig in from there. Your turn when you're ready.