If you're reading this, you're either a Founding Member, considering becoming one, or you found us through Pattern18 itself. This space is small on purpose. It will stay small while we build. A few things to know: - I'm Rae. I built Pattern18 because I needed it and it didn't exist. - This community is async-first. No required calls, no homework. Show up when you can. - The product you see now is the product Founding Members will help shape. - Honest feedback is the highest-value thing you can contribute here. If you want to introduce yourself in the comments, I'd love that. Where are you in your journey, and what made you walk through this door? 💚Rae

This is a safe space. A few things to keep it that way: 1. Anonymize everything. No real names, no identifying details when sharing messages or stories. Protect yourself and your kids. 2. No legal advice. We can share experience and document patterns, but we're not lawyers. For legal questions, talk to yours. 3. Believe each other. If someone shares something that sounds "too much," it probably happened. Default to belief. 4. No judgment about staying, leaving, co-parenting, or going no-contact. Every situation is different. We support each other's choices. 5. Vents are welcome. Wins are celebrated. Questions are encouraged. If you see something that doesn't belong here, flag it. I read everything. — Rae

Quick explainer so you know what's available: FREE — Analyze any message Paste a message, get back: - What's actually being said underneath the words - Manipulation patterns (DARVO, gaslighting, guilt-tripping, etc.) - A suggested response if you want one - No account needed FREE ACCOUNT — Save + Draft - Save messages to build a pattern over time - Draft responses and come back to them later - See your history PATTERN18 ($47/mo) — Build your case - Export attorney-ready documentation - Sage AI for deeper pattern analysis across months or years of messages - Timeline builder Most people start with the free tier. That's the whole point. You shouldn't have to pay to find out you're not crazy. compass.opalitesystems.com Questions? Drop them below.

If you just landed here, you're probably exhausted. Maybe you just got another message that made your stomach drop. Maybe you're staring at a thread of 200 texts trying to figure out how to show your lawyer what's actually happening. Maybe you just need one person in the world to say "yes, that was weird, you're not imagining it." I built Compass because I lived this for 15 years. I know what it's like to second-guess every reply, to screenshot everything, to wonder if you're the crazy one. You're not. This community is for parents navigating high-conflict custody, coercive control, and family court systems that keep getting it wrong. We share messages, we analyze patterns, we document, and we remind each other that clarity is possible. Three things to do right now: 1. Drop a hello in General Discussion. Just one sentence. You don't have to explain anything. 2. Check out Compass (the tool) at compass.opalitesystems.com — free to analyze messages, no account needed. 3. When you're ready, share a message in "Share Your Analysis" and we'll walk through it together. You found this place for a reason. — Rae