“Hey daddys boy!” “Man he didn’t earn it they’ve got money..” “Must be nice..” Sound familiar? These tickling banters that have rang in your ears since.. Well forever? Yea no one probably ever said them.. Or maybe they did? I’m not sure, kind of depends on how petty of a town you grew up in. But what I do know is this, you’ve told yourself your whole life that’s what “they” have said about you. As if you didn't already have a shadow to outgrow, now you voluntarily take your shoes off and run on the gravel while you’re trying to figure it out, hurting yourself every step of the way. Oh yea and you decided to take your dad’s (or whoever it is who’s helping you) shoes and pulled them down the road with you. This is a book, well maybe its a book, or maybe it's a pamphlet... Or a memoir? A guide? Don't care, the point is I feel you my friend. This writing is an attempt to help you and your father/ uncle/ grandpa WHOEVER, see each other eye to eye again. That “shadow maker” you came to resent. If you are anything like me, I understand your entire persona. Not because I am some well-studied psychology scholar, but instead because I walked barefoot down that same gravel road. On PURPOSE. And dammit it hurt every step of the way. If I could have just had someone shake the stupid out of me I could have saved myself and my “Shadow maker” a whole lot of self-inflicted misery. This is an attempt to unravel some of that pain you, and possibly your father, are in. A simple “big brother lecture” on how you might escape that shadow that is your mother or father without hurting yourself any more than necessary along the way.. By giving understanding both to father, and son. Lets put our gloves down, and go for a walk. (shoes on) ********************************************************** This is the first chapter of the book I am working on called Born in the Shadow. Im introducing this to Skool because I strongly believe this community (and this book) will be a place of transformation for fathers and sons, to reshape the line of tension between them. To give them direction and support in working to mend and even strengthen the relationship that working together can indirectly deteriorate.