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Hello and welcome to Blended Family Momentum (Free) This community is the best place for you, if you want to: ✅Learn how to be unified with your spouse ✅Follow our simple steps then do the work to make your marriage the best it has ever been. Comment "Start" then click on this link: Welcome to the Blended Family Momentum Community - Onboarding · Blended Family Momentum
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Blended Family Momentum – Community Rules
This community exists to help you protect your marriage, grow in self-awareness, and build real unity in your blended family. These rules aren’t about control — they’re about creating a space that actually works. Please read them carefully. They matter. 1. This Is a Clarity & Growth Community This is a place for reflection, responsibility, and forward movement. You are welcome to: - Share situations for clarity and growth - Ask thoughtful questions - Take ownership of your mindset and behavior You may not: - Name, blame, or attack your spouse, ex, children, or stepchildren - Post from a place of victimhood without personal responsibility - Use the community to validate unhealthy patterns Growth requires ownership. We will always redirect toward that. 2. No Venting or Bashing Venting may feel relieving, but it keeps people stuck — and it pulls others into the same cycle. This community is not a place to: - Bash your spouse or ex - Gather people to “side with you” - Repeatedly rehash the same grievances If you’re feeling overwhelmed, pause and ask: “What do I need clarity on? “What’s my part in this?” That’s where growth begins. 3. Talking About Exes (Read This Carefully) Constant focus on exes often keeps us locked in blame — and blame kills momentum. Instead of focusing on what your ex did or didn’t do: - Focus on what you can control - Ask how you can respond differently - Shift the conversation toward boundaries, clarity, and growth If a situation involves an ex, keep references brief, factual, and neutral — no character attacks. 4. Marriage Comes First This is a marriage-first community. That means: - We do not undermine spouses - We do not pit partners against each other - We do not validate behavior that damages unity Posts or comments that encourage division in a marriage will be removed. Protecting the marriage protects the family. 5. Advice Must Be Positive & Experiential Advice should never be harsh, prescriptive, or shaming.
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Blended families don’t struggle because kids are “Difficult.”
They struggle because adults refuse to come together. Different parenting styles aren’t just annoying, they’re reckless. One house is structure. The other is vibes. One parent corrects. The other protects. And the kids? They don’t need therapy, they need parenting. Scripture is painfully clear on this: “If a house is divided against itself, that house will not be able to stand.” Mark 3:25 (NASB) When a blended home runs on competing authorities, children learn one thing fast: How to play mom and dad. Unity doesn’t mean you agree on everything. It means you agree on base thing, like who leads, how correction works, and what obedience looks like. “Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord.” Ephesians 6:4 (NASB) Notice what Scripture doesn’t say: It doesn’t say “follow your feelings”🤢 It doesn’t say “let the kids decide” It says discipline and instruction. Discipline without unity breeds chaos. Unity without discipline breeds entitlement. And entitlement is one of the fastest ways to poison a home. “For God is not a God of confusion, but of peace.” 1 Corinthians 14:33 (NASB) If your parenting styles clash, don’t ask “What works for the kids?” Ask “What reflects order, authority, and peace under God?” Blended families don’t need softer rules. They need leadership.
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“You Knew What You Were Signing Up For”
I want to challenge one sentence that I've seen damage remarriages. “You knew what you were signing up for.” When people say that, what we really mean is: “This is how I am.” And underneath that is this belief: If you love me, you should just accept it. But marriage is not an acceptance contract. It is a transformation covenant. Remarriage especially. You don’t get to freeze your flaws in place and call it your personality. You don’t get to defend patterns that hurt unity because they were visible before the wedding. Growth is not optional in remarriage. And if we’re honest, sometimes we use that sentence to avoid the harder work — humility, change, and surrender. If you’ve ever said it, ask yourself: Was I protecting the marriage…or protecting myself? There’s a difference. The faster you can become self-aware, The faster you and your spouse can become one. ♥️
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A lot of Christian men say they want to lead.
But what they really want is comfort. Scripture is straight about this: milk is for infants. Meat is for the mature.(Hebrews 5) Milk says: Encourage me. Meat says: Correct me. Milk wants feelings. Meat wants character. You cannot lead a marriage, a blended family, or a household on milk. Leadership requires discernment, discipline, restraint, and responsibility, and those only grow when you chew on hard truth. If every challenge feels offensive, every boundary feels hard, and every standard gets in the way, you’re not being persecuted, you’re being underdeveloped. Strong families are led by men who can digest meat. Not because it tastes good. But because it builds strength. The question isn’t just “Are you saved?" It’s also “Are you grown?”
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