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Blended Family Momentum – Community Rules
This community exists to help you protect your marriage, grow in self-awareness, and build real unity in your blended family. These rules aren’t about control — they’re about creating a space that actually works.
Please read them carefully. They matter.
1. This Is a Clarity & Growth Community
This is a place for reflection, responsibility, and forward movement.
You are welcome to:
- Share situations for clarity and growth
- Ask thoughtful questions
- Take ownership of your mindset and behavior
You may not:
- Name, blame, or attack your spouse, ex, children, or stepchildren
- Post from a place of victimhood without personal responsibility
- Use the community to validate unhealthy patterns
Growth requires ownership. We will always redirect toward that.
2. No Venting or Bashing
Venting may feel relieving, but it keeps people stuck — and it pulls others into the same cycle.
This community is not a place to:
- Bash your spouse or ex
- Gather people to “side with you”
- Repeatedly rehash the same grievances
If you’re feeling overwhelmed, pause and ask:
“What do I need clarity on? “What’s my part in this?”
That’s where growth begins.
3. Talking About Exes (Read This Carefully)
Constant focus on exes often keeps us locked in blame — and blame kills momentum.
Instead of focusing on what your ex did or didn’t do:
- Focus on what you can control
- Ask how you can respond differently
- Shift the conversation toward boundaries, clarity, and growth
If a situation involves an ex, keep references brief, factual, and neutral — no character attacks.
4. Marriage Comes First
This is a marriage-first community.
That means:
- We do not undermine spouses
- We do not pit partners against each other
- We do not validate behavior that damages unity
Posts or comments that encourage division in a marriage will be removed.
Protecting the marriage protects the family.
5. Advice Must Be Positive & Experiential
Advice should never be harsh, prescriptive, or shaming.
Please frame advice like this:
“This is something I tried, and it helped us. It might be helpful for you too.”
Avoid:
- “You should…”
- “You need to…”
- Absolutes or ultimatums
We share wisdom — not commands.
6. The Purple Flag (Prayer Requests)
If you need prayer, please use the Purple Flag.
How it works:
- Add the purple flag to your post
- Place your request in the Purple Flag / Prayer section
Important guidelines:
- Prayer requests must be general only
- No names, details, or specifics
- This protects privacy and unity
Example:
“Please pray for peace and wisdom in our marriage during a difficult season."
7. Member Conflict Must Stay Private
Disagreements happen — but public conflict damages trust.
If there’s an issue:
- Keep communication respectful
- Take it to private messages, not the forum
- Never attack, accuse, or embarrass another member publicly
Momentum is hard to rebuild once it’s lost. Please be humble with one another.
8. Privacy Is Non-Negotiable
What is shared here stays here.
You may not:
- Share screenshots, posts, or discussions outside the community
- Share tools, resources, or course content externally
- Share your membership with anyone other than your spouse
We strongly prefer separate accounts for couples, especially since this is currently a free community.
Trust is essential. Protect it.
9. Moderator Authority
Moderators are here to protect the integrity of the community.
They may:
- Remove posts or comments that violate these rules
- Message you to request edits
If you receive a moderator message:
- You will have 30 minutes to edit your post or comment
- If it is not corrected within that window, it will be removed
Repeated disregard for the rules may result in removal from the community.
10. Final Word
You don’t need to be perfect to be here. You do need to be intentional, respectful, and willing to grow.
These rules exist so this community remains a place of:
- Safety
- Clarity
- Unity
- Forward momentum
Thank you for helping us protect that.
— Brenda 💛
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Blended Family Momentum – Community Rules
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A community for remarried couples ready to protect their marriage & lead their blended family, led by Mike & Brenda Baker, married 30 years.
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