December 27 was the day it happened.
One unexpected event.
A real curveball.
The kind that dents life plans and knocks the wind out of you for a bit.
And at 56?
You donโt dramatize itโbut you do feel it.
The thing isโฆ this wasnโt my first curveball.
So I did what you do.
I got back on my feet.
Slowly. Quietly. Honestly.
And hereโs what surprised me most:
Getting your flame back has nothing to do with posting more.
Or announcing that youโre โback.โ
Or hyping your own visibility.
It comes from showing up for others.
โข Commenting with real care
โข Replying without pitching
โข Offering your best advice because someone asked
โข Supporting, not performing
โข Being useful, not loud
Thatโs community.
Yes, the flame carries a bit of notoriety, โIโve been here. You can lean on me. You can trust me.โ
But itโs also earned.
Through consistency.
Presence.
Relationship.
So if youโre asking yourself today: โHow do I want to show up?โ
Try asking instead:
Who can I help?
Who can I support?
Who can I build a real relationship withโor collaborate alongside?
Thatโs what the flame actually symbolizes.
Not status.
Not content volume.
But shared momentum.
And Iโm deeply grateful for the people in my Skool communities who kept showing up like thatโfor me and for each other. ๐งก
๐ฌ Be honestโhave you lost your flame recently? Or are you finding your way back right now? Are you frustrated you haven't gotten it by now?