Hey Brother, There’s something most men aren’t prepared for. It happens when they end up in bed with a woman they actually care about.  And it goes like this: The more attracted he is to her… The more he wants her… The more likely he is to go soft. This blindsides him. Confuses him. Because in his mind, more attraction should mean more arousal. Right? But the opposite happens. Why? Because most men build their bedroom confidence on performance. On a script they learned early on. Where intimacy equals lust, control, and doing it “right.” That script isn’t necessarily wrong. But it is disconnected. And now... With her, his heart is involved. And suddenly the old performance script breaks. The safety of emotional distance dissolves. And he’s no longer performing. He’s being asked to feel.  And what shows up? Softness. Uncertainty. Vulnerability.  So what does he do? Many men panic. They overcorrect. They abandon their own desire. They become giving. Accommodating. Selfless. But here’s the truth: Without his own lust, his own fire—there’s no polarity. No spark. No ravishing. Just caretaking. And no one is turned on by that. So what’s the way through? It’s not to return to the disconnected performer. And it’s not to collapse into the selfless pleaser. It’s to merge both.  To bring the Lover’s heart, and the Warrior’s penetrative force.  That’s when a man can truly meet her. Fully. Deeply. Powerfully. To ravish her with love… And love her with fire. — Sanne