A quote from my new novel, Remembering. Coming soon. “Memory isn’t stored in the brain. It’s accessed through it.” She moved to one of the alcoves. Touched a carved spiral. “We think memory is neurons firing. Synapses connecting. Chemical reactions. But that’s like saying music is stored in a radio. The radio doesn’t create the music. It receives it. Tunes into a frequency that already exists.” If this were true, and many believe it is. Would learning be less about forcing information in, and more about clearing noise out? Would thinking improve if the environment supported it, instead of constantly interrupting it? Would clarity come not from more effort, but from stillness? Is this why meditation is no longer fringe, but becoming essential? And when we look at ancient sites around the world, built with precision, silence, geometry, and used at specific times of day and year. Were they designed to store knowledge. Or to access it? Not teaching. Just asking. I’d be genuinely interested in how others see this.

Most people are searching outside of themselves for everything.Medicine. Goals. Inspiration. Motivation. Education. Confidence. Permission. We have been trained to believe the answer is always 'out there'. Another book. Another course. Another expert. Another hack. And yes, learning matters. Support matters. Mentoring matters. But there is a big difference between learning to expand, and learning because you do not trust yourself to decide. Here is the truth most people avoid. You were born with more wiring than you give yourself credit for. Instinct. Intuition. Pattern recognition. Resilience. A built in compass that knows when something is off, and knows when something is aligned. Look at nature: Sea turtles are buried under sand by a mother they will never meet again. No tutorial. No hand holding. No motivational podcast. Yet when the time comes, they know to dig up. They know to head straight for the sea. They know to swim. They know to survive. Then years later, they return to the same beach to do it again. Call it instinct. Call it design. Call it nature. But it proves something important. The direction was already in them. Humans are no different. You do not need to outsource every decision. You do not need to wait for the perfect strategy before you start. You do not need to collect information until you feel safe. You need to choose a direction. Then get the right input. Not the other way round. Because if you keep expecting life to be delivered to you from the outside, you will spend your entire life consuming and never creating. So here is a simple rule for 2026. Go inward first. Decide who you want to be. Decide what you want. Decide what matters. Then get advice to support the path you have chosen, not to replace your responsibility to choose it. Stop searching for a saviour. Start trusting your compass. You have more in you than you have been taught to believe.

Have A Read. Then Sit With It. Supporting or exploiting? Helping or controlling? The line between them so thin it was almost invisible. He saw the conditioning. The prisons without bars. Fleas in a jar. The lid on for days. They learned not to jump higher than the lid. And when the lid was removed, they still wouldn’t jump. Their children wouldn’t jump. The invisible barrier remained. Conditioning so complete it passed through generations. Baby elephants chained to stakes. They pulled and pulled but couldn’t break free. And when they grew into adults, strong enough to uproot trees, they still wouldn’t try. The same thin rope. The same small stake. The same learned helplessness. Pike fish and glass partitions. Hunting minnows until they hit the glass. Again and again. Until they stopped trying. And when the glass was removed, they starved in a tank full of food. The barrier that wasn’t there anymore. Still there in their minds. He understood then. The most effective cages had no bars. The most complete conditioning left no awareness of the conditioning. People plugged themselves back into the system because they didn’t know there was anywhere else to be. But there was.... There always had been. Now pause: If you were a fly on the wall in your own life: - How many limits do you live by that were never truly yours? - How many beliefs were handed to you, not chosen by you? - How many invisible ropes still shape your decisions? Take time with this. This matters more than most people realise. You are far more capable than you believe. Stronger than you were ever told. Smarter than the labels you accepted. Many of the limits you live with today: - Were spoken over you when you were younger - Were inherited from fear, not truth - Were reinforced by repetition, not reality You can change. If you choose to look. - Beyond the rope. - Beyond the bars. - Beyond the limits that were never real in the first place. Sometimes growth is not about becoming more.