While growth sometime IS painful, it does hot have to be. Life is NOT a life sentence and Earth is not a giant Reformatory. Dare to live and learn with joy!

What is the reason people want to be in a relationship with someone... i have been single for ages and can't think of a reason to be with someone. I value my own company and connection to spirituality. Is it physical connection or someone to spend time with? i think ive gone nuts cause I feel I have everything within myself to be happy or fulfilled. I'm out of loop or something.

Ever had someone take a little longer to reply and suddenly your brain opens a full investigation? “They’re different.” “They’re pulling away.” “They don't care anymore.” “I knew this would happen.” “Yep. I’m being abandoned.” 🚨 Meanwhile, they might simply be… at lunch. But here’s the interesting part: Fear of abandonment often has roots much earlier than the relationship you're currently worried about. Maybe you experienced rejection, separation, loss, neglect, or simply learned that connection could disappear without warning. And as children, we don't have the perspective to think: "This is about their capacity, circumstances, or emotional state." We often make it mean: “Something is wrong with me.” “I have to be good enough to be loved.” “I have to keep people happy so they won't leave.” So later, you may over-give, people-please, over-explain, become hyperaware of every change in someone's behavior, or desperately try to control the relationship. Not because you're “too needy.” Because some part of you learned that connection equals safety. And here's the beautiful shift: You don't heal abandonment by making sure nobody ever leaves. You heal it by learning: “I won't abandon myself when someone else does.” ❤️ That means: 🌱 Notice the trigger before reacting. “Something changed and I'm scared” is very different from “They're leaving me.” 🌱 Separate facts from the story. What actually happened? What meaning did your mind add? 🌱 Feel the fear without letting it drive the car. You don't have to suppress it. You also don't have to obey it. 🌱 Stop over-giving to secure love. You shouldn't have to audition for someone's continued presence. 🌱 Communicate instead of mind-reading. Ask. Clarify. Don't build an entire Netflix series from one unanswered text. 😂 🌱 Choose yourself. Your needs, boundaries, values and truth matter too. 🌱 Practice becoming someone you can trust. The goal isn't “Everyone will stay.” It's “Whatever happens, I will stay connected to myself.” There is another powerful piece here:

Today is day 11 of doing Joe Dispenza’s meditation from the book Breaking the Habit of Being Yourself...😇🕊 It’s actually a 4-week meditation program. So far, I haven’t noticed any major changes in my mood, but It was kind of surprising to me that the most noticeable effect has been on my work...🔮 Have any of you tried Joe Dispenza’s meditations?😍