Something that ended up happening to me some time after my marriage ended. Throughout the years, me and my ex-husband had been in and out of each other's lives. Something had occurred in his life after our divorce. I originally had a prophetic dream of him that law enforcement was going to be involved in his life, and I tried to warn him. The dream did not come to pass until about 6 months after I had the dream. He did not take heed to my warning. Him not listening to my warning led to a legal action being taken against him. The Holy Spirit put it upon my heart to pray and fast for him in reference to the legal action that came against him. At first, in my flesh I was like...let him suffer (Just being honest). But the Holy Spirit kept placing it on my heart. So, I took time out to fast and pray on his behalf. He ended up winning his case and obtaining his property back. I saw his legal documents and the name of one of his lawyers last name was "Revah". I knew instantly, that even though I was legally divorced from my ex-husband. I still had spiritual authority to intercede on his behalf. As I have Christian life coached women that were married and having issues in their marriages. I would tell them that they need to start fasting and praying on behalf of their husbands and their marriages. Some things do not go out without fasting and praying. (Matthew 17:21)

@Kashina Smith That flesh needs to be crucified daily. I agree, it is a privilege. We are supposed to be the helpmeet, and God equips us in such a way that enhances the husband and flourishes the marriage/family. The husband is equipped in his own way to enhance/flourish the marriage/family. It was quite interesting; I ended up fasting and praying for him a lot after our divorce. Unfortunately, he kept getting himself trapped in the same type of snare even when I would warn him after what I saw through a time of fasting. So, now I just pray for his salvation. As I was told from a spiritual mentor. His soul is more important.

As I reflect back, there was really no quality time once I retired from the military and returned to Florida. I was working on my doctorate degree right before we separated. One of the things that we eventually discussed after the fact was, he said that I did not pay attention to him like I once did. So, it is important to put that quality time in and be able to balance/prioritize.

@Kashina Smith Reflecting back and taking accountability helped me to grow. During, that season I was working a full-time job and pursuing my doctorate degree. I eventually, stopped working and was just focusing on my doctorate. I still was spending more time on my course work, while he was doing whatever it was, he was doing. Yes, it can be hard to find the words to say the connection is missed. He had the type of personality that he would not address certain things with me because I was not the easiest person to talk to and he shared with me after the divorce that he knew I would see it as a sign of weakness. I have a very strong personality and he did not. He was more meek not necessarily weak.

Do you just pray for your spouse or do you fast for your spouse as well?

@Kashina Smith I understand. Many don't fast regularly. I definitely did not when I was married. I did not know to. I was not taught to at the time. In 2024, I took part in a 30-day fasting and praying challenge to pray/fast for current or future husband; due to two dear friends of mine shared that they sensed in the spiritual realm that I would eventually get married again due to all the work that I put in and the healing that I went through after my divorce. That challenge was so enlightening to me, because some of the married women shared how there are times that the enemy just needs a crack in a marriage to bring discord. We can get complacent, which I did. Yeah, there are times that we will ask God to change our spouse when God wants to change us. We will be the one standing before God on what we did/did not do in the marriage and the spouse will be standing before God on what he did/did not do in the marriage.

@Julie Doran 34 years, what a blessing! I'm not sure why, but I know quite a few married women who have a husband that loves God, but they will not attend church. Praying that God will change his heart for the two of you to attend church together.

@Lyric Lewis Praying that God will continue to bless your marriage and the ministry that the two of you have together.