just listened to the relationship and intimacy video that unlocked for me today. i have experienced my own traumas from this misdirected polarity stuff. serious sexual kinked stuff from a previous partner. i took on her traumas in how she related to this polarity world with her as the feminine and me as her masculine. i could never live up to her imaginary visions of what it all meant and in the end, no matter how present, still or grounded I was, she could never trust me. i didnt sand the wood to an appropriate grit for her, and i dont mean this in a sexual innuendo way. i mean a shelf i built wasnt sanded to 2000 grit, i stopped at 120. couldnt trust me as a man. men who ejaculate while practicing the art of non-ejaculation are not trust worthy... those were just 2 of many examples that stand out immediately for me. it took the intimacy of my wife and I for me to work through that shit. and like you mentioned Reko, I didnt do it in a way that put any on my wife's shoulders, nothing for her to cary, but for her to be there with me while i unpacked it and put it down, so i wasn't carrying it anymore either. the part that is paramount to me, even before polarity as an exploration is why? why be in a relationship in the first place? this circles back to other chats I am having in this skool room around the conditioning audit. most people get together because of conditioning and not from an intentional look at why. without a clear why, everything else becomes that performative mess that was also mentioned in the intimacy video. finding why sooner than later is helpful, but it is never too late to come to the why, what purpose do we serve here in relationship. my final thought comes from the sentence i just formed previous to this one now. in all relationships, not just the conventional man/woman but brother/brother, brother/sister, self/universe, self/self ect... all relationships, asking "why am I in this" is a fucking super power.

What are you still getting from your confusion? What do you get to avoid being with?

On the journey towards your goals, there is an inevitable point where we limit our success. Whether we want Money, Love and Intimacy, Free Time, Joy etc... Everyone has a limit on how much they will alllow themselves to experience. Check out this short breakdown. We are going to be exploring this and supporting you with it in the Architecture of Being Tier!

I made this video for Instagram, hence the format. But we are doing a deeper human design deconditioning audit in the Architecture of Being tier. If you want in, join us on our next call, this Thursday!

A short video I made for IG