Wow, just wow. This so resonated with me that I just had to share (especially as I am a woman who LOVES knowing that I have no idea where "my line" is. I just know I haven't done all I can YET. Enjoy! "The question is, doesn't everyone want to be number one? Well, we all want to win, but it depends on how we define winning, and how we understand the joy of competing, without the fear of failure. Defining what best is, is a key thing. Society says we won four national championships but we also lost four; but the ones that we lost were great games, just terrific games. What I've done is try to take the three definitions of best and lay them out in a way that our guys understand it." "First is being THE best. That's what everyone talks about. Being the NBA champion. When you win it, you're everything; when you don't, you go home a loser. I don't believe that at all, but that's something you've got to challenge. Being the best is a by-product of other things." "The second definition is being YOUR best. Well, how do you know what your best really is? I think that's really the key in coaching - to try to help a person reach his or her potential, whatever that is. So, you ask, "How do you measure potential?" There's all these fitness tests that they run - speed, agility, things at the combine - but there's another one, the inner game, the inside test, which is even greater than these." (Note: The combine is a week-long showcase for prospective NFL football players to be evaluated by NFL teams). "[In football] you gotta be able to run, you gotta be able to hit and do all these other things, but the bottom line is, those are not what really make the difference. Parents tell their kids to do their best, but so many times we aren't our best. We try hard, but we're not our best. So, we have to figure out another way that you can deal with competing, and again understanding that we may not be the best, we may not be our best, but we can accomplish one thing, and that's the third definition ... which is your best shot."