Good morning community family. I have been absent due to family medical emergencies and I just ask you all to just pray for my brother. This is the one that had his leg amputated twice and they recently said that he had internal bleeding, they found the cause of that and now we are on the road from recovery from that.. I am not giving up on my dream even though it may seem delayed but I know not denied. As we all know, life does happen and it's just a curve.. I am just needed else where right now and that is supporting my brother and helping him get back on track with his health, I don't know how long that will take. Only God knows. But what I do know of a certainty God is in control and he got this to. I am just gonna continue to stay positive and look to learn and grow from this because there is a lesson in everything. What my Heavenly Father wants me to get from this bump in the road, I know that I am going to get just that. Thanks for your prayers 🙏 ❤️ Love y'all and keep slaying it....

If you want to help a coaching client transform any relationship, then all you need is the "I'm OK, You're OK" communication framework. During a recent Relationship You Deserve coaching call… One of my students was sharing how her husband responds whenever she needs emotional support. "When I'm upset and turn to him, I get into this real desolation," she told me. "Nothing he can do can make me feel better. I just feel completely hopeless." For 37 years of marriage, this pattern had been repeating. So I shared with her the four boxes of communication: Box 1: "I'm not OK, you're not OK." This is rock bottom. The place where both people feel helpless and defensive. "Nothing I do makes any difference anyway." "You never listen, and I'm sick of trying." "We're both just broken." Box 2: "I'm OK, you're not OK." This is where one person takes the superior position. "I can't deal with your emotions right now." "There's something wrong with you." "If only you would change, everything would be fine." Box 3: "I'm not OK, you're OK." This is self-deprecation and victimhood. "Don't worry about little old me, just scraping by." "Everyone else is fine, I'm the only one with problems." "I've looked after myself since I was five years old." Sidenote: My mother-in-law is a master at this one 😅 She drops these lines and waits for everyone to rush in with reassurance. But the magic happens in Box 4... "I'm OK, you're OK." This is where the real connection is. It doesn't mean everything is perfect. It means we're approaching each other as capable adults who both have valid perspectives. It means seeing each other's inner five-year-old without judging it. It means recognising when your partner shifts into one of the other boxes without following them there. During the call, my student realised WHY she’d felt so helpless previously… "I've been in Box 1 - 'I'm not OK, you're not OK' - whenever I feel this way," she said. "But the reality is my husband is there for me. He's doing everything possible to be with me during that time."

One of the biggest misconceptions out there is that you don't need proper certifications to be a coach. Well, I don't believe that's true. Why? Because coaching is about changing lives. Think about it... Every day people trust coaches with their deepest problems. Their relationships. Their emotions. Their future. That's a huge responsibility. Yet most people think they can just wake up and start coaching. They make an Instagram page. Put "coach" in their bio. Start taking clients. And that's nuts to me. Would you trust a doctor who learned from YouTube? A lawyer who never passed the bar? A pilot who played flight simulator? Of course not. Yet somehow coaching is different. People think passion is enough. Or that watching motivational videos counts as training. Or that having gone through something similar makes them qualified. But it doesn't work that way. Real coaching requires real skills. Proven frameworks. Tested methods. Systems that actually work. That's why certification matters. It's not about the piece of paper. It's about knowing what you're doing. Having confidence in your methods. Getting consistent results. That's what we're building right now. And for the Relationship You Deserve coaching certification we're doing something different. Something nobody else does. And giving our certified coaches paying clients. Real people to work with. Real relationships to transform. Real income from day one. Which means they can focus on being great coaches instead of marketing and sales. So my advice? If you want to be a proper coach... Get properly certified first. It'll change everything.

Congratulations @Jessica Martinez

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