I take full responsibility for everything in my life. I keep telling myself this everyday, and I took a break from here because I actually got frustrated with a struggle between how can I be responsible for everything that's happened when I don't feel like I am and figuring out exactly what I am responsible for and actually taking that responsibility. it's a very difficult practice to wrap my head around. I'm ending a 24-year very verbally, mentally, emotionally, financially and sexually abusive marriage and up to this point, I've been overwhelmingly sad and angry. Trying to break a horrible trauma Bond, feeling like life ends with him cheating over and over and running out over and over. It's been very difficult for me to not just be filled with blaming him and trying to figure out what I'm responsible for. I'm certainly not a responsible for the abuse, but I am responsible for getting out of it, I am responsible for figuring out why I stayed with it for so long, I am responsible for figuring out how to move forward from here, I'm responsible for letting him destroy every boundary I ever had, I'm responsible for getting myself to an abuse free and financially stable future. So I'm back to keep telling myself this everyday and posting it here and being held accountable for things that I can control instead of just focusing on the things that I can't and the things that are done that I need to move forward from

My Reel about Megan Fox & MGK’s break up has just gone viral with 7M views Here’s some backstory for you: When I started out as a relationship coach in the late 90s, I didn’t even have a girlfriend lol. But I still got epic results for my clients. Because I understood the psychology and emotional triggers that drive relationships. And this is something I’ve been refining for 20+ years now. In fact, next year I will be launching something new to help people get the relationship they deserve. Back to my Reel about Megan Fox… It was about the dangers of being in a “trauma bond”. You see, most couples don't see this hidden toxic cycle building until it's too late: Love becomes a battlefield of emotional highs, devastating lows, and you're constantly being pulled between pain and the promise of change. So in the Reel, I talked about the 3 signs you're in a trauma bond and how to avoid it: Number 1: They break you, then fix you. They hurt you, but they feel like the only person that can comfort you too. This creates emotional dependence. Number 2: The better version trap You're clinging to the hope of their potential, believing they're a good partner who is just bad sometimes. But in reality? They're a bad partner who is sometimes good. Number 3: The healing and the harm come from the same person You feel abandoned by them, yet deeply understood by them. This emotional chaos keeps you stuck. The point is… Real love doesn't break you into pieces. It doesn't require constant fixing or waiting for a better version of someone else. So if you feel like you're slowly being destroyed… It's time to ask: “Is this really love? Or a toxic cycle I need to end now?” Because you're not alone. I’ve got you :-) And by the way… Here’s the original Reel with 7M views…

Had to take a little break but I'm back. And I'm taking responsibility for everything in my life

I had asked previously if it was even realistic for me to consider coaching when I'm not fully healed myself and this kind of goes along with it.. how do I look for blind spots in language or double binds the way it does in his coaching sessions if I cannot readily recognize those? I was relating more to the client and could understand what she was saying and didn't realize it was a problem until Ed pointed it out. So how can one coach like that or help someone if you can't recognize it easily the way he does?

I take responsibility for everything in my life