This is the video I’m not posting this week. I’m sharing it here with you Vizzy D’s instead. Because sometimes visibility work is also about: knowing thyself. I’ve had a barrage lately of angry DMs from funeral directors, full of accusations, assumptions and some fairly wild interpretations of what I’m doing. And honestly? It triggered me. And swung my Taurean passive-aggression into full swing… 🐂😂 Some of my anger was warranted. But after making this video, I realised I was about to do something I often encourage you guys NOT to do: Create content for the people who are annoying you. 😅 So I slept on it. I shared my frustration with some trusted peers & friends. And they helped me realign where I wanted to put my energy. Because the people I’m really here to speak to aren’t the people I’m arguing with in my head. They’re the families who need to know what kind of person I am. They’re the peers who are looking for a different way of doing things. They’re the people who might see one of my posts and think: “Oh. I think I’d like to work with her.” 🐦‍⬛ We talk about this a lot in the Social Reels Masterclass, but your social media is your shopfront window. And families, colleagues and potential collaborators are looking through that window all the time. So this week, I want you to notice: Who are you actually speaking to? And perhaps more importantly: Who have you accidentally started creating content for? The person who criticised you? The competitor who gets under your skin? The colleague who disagrees with you? The imaginary person you’re trying to prove something to? Or the people you actually want to reach? 🐦‍⬛ YOUR VISIBLE FRIDAY PROMPT Think of something you’ve posted recently, or wanted to post, and ask: Who was I really speaking to? Then ask: If the person I most want to work with walked into my shopfront window right now, would this content tell them something useful about me? And finally: What would I create if I stopped trying to prove something and started trying to connect?

I've been wanting to build this for a while, and it's finally here. The *Vizzy D Resource Library* is a shared space of books, podcasts, documentaries, readings, newsletters and accounts that have shaped how we think about death, grief and ceremony, built by this community, for this community. You can find it in the Classroom tab. It's not a list I've put together alone. It's meant to grow with whatever's actually shaping your practice right now, the book that changed how you show up with a family, the podcast episode you've sent to three colleagues, the poem you keep coming back to for readings. Inside you'll find a growing library of: 📖 Books 🎧 Podcasts 🎥 Documentaries & Films 🕊️ Poems & Readings ✍️ Newsletters & Substacks 🌐 Organisations & Websites 🎓 Courses & trainings 🎵 Playlists Comment below with all your suggestions! Just include what it is, who it's by, and one honest line on why it stuck with you. We're not after exhaustive lists here, we're after the things that actually changed how you think or work. This is one of those small, ongoing things I hope becomes genuinely useful over time. Curious to see what this community pulls together... Only love, Amy 🐦‍⬛

Even after working as a funeral director for 16 years, and a death doula for 3, when I hear a perspective client's story for the first time, I STILL freeze for a moment and wonder "what is it I do again?" Can anyone else relate? What do you do to regain your confidence?

Death care content can feel like shouting into the void sometimes - especially in the early days, especially on platforms that don’t always love what we talk about. So let’s make it a little less lonely… Drop your handles below - Instagram, TikTok, Facebook, wherever you’re showing up - and let’s go find each other. Follow, engage, share what moves you. This is how we build something together. 🐦‍⬛ I’ll go first: Insta - https://www.instagram.com/amyfirthministry TT - https://www.tiktok.com/@aussiedeathcarelady Facebook - www.facebook.com/amyfirthmusic The Visible Death Worker: https://www.instagram.com/visibledeathworker https://www.tiktok.com/@visibledeathworker Amy x

Hey! I took part in my first Death Café last Saturday and I loved it. One of the things that I noticed was that, besides the 2 facilitators who were palliative care nurses, I, a celebrant, was there, and there was also someone making beautiful wooden sculptures for graves and a couple of singers for ceremonies.. This observation seemed to show that we need a place to meet as a network and become more visible together! So, as I have some capacity and experience for that, I am taking the first steps to get it started with the 2 palliative care nurses. We imagined that having a common website that gathers all actors in the ecosystem of death in our city would be a good start, and then meeting up and hopefully having collaborations etc. This would include the traditional actors such as funeral directors, palliative care, priests, but also death doulas, celebrants etc. Do any of you have such a webpage and/or network in your area? Would you share your experience and the website if there is such a thing? Regarding the name, we were joking with "The Death Portal" but it might be a bit too much for a start.. :) Any experience or tip is welcome! Thanks! Johanna