That's interesting. I believe that this new person that has come in recently, though nice and seems lovely, was a reflection of my previous patterns... sort of came in hard and fast swooping, on a level, complimentary, and got a bit love bomby... but texting into hours in the night, which isn't going to work for me...Two weeks of this went by and there was no effort to make anything real happen, even though I stayed open to it and did let myself flirt. They didn't ask for an actual date. Just talk and no action. It was really weird. Like they might not even mean any harm, but just aren't aware of their own patterns. It felt like a test, for me, to make a boundary. So I did and haven't heard from them in 2 days.

Hello @Wendy Prager and thank you for having me. I have seen a few of your posts on Skoolers and was intrigued. My name is Meda and I'm a Skooler as well, with a power yoga community, but I'm here because I have a complicated past with relationships. I am willing to share more, but it may take me some time before I disclose all details. I am an INFJ who is working on being more mature and discerning with my empathic nature. The last couple of years I have devoted myself to rebuilding and learning how to approach relationships in a more healthy way. I have learned a lot about my patterns and what I have been attracted to in the past, and why. Though it isn't my goal to be in a relationship at this time, I am working on developing a secure attachment style in romantic relationships and becoming a better communicator, partner, and friend. I am a mother to a beautiful girl with special gifts and needs. I aim to be the best version of myself for myself, and for her.

@Wendy Prager thank you for opening the space to share.🙏