A Gentle Holiday Offering As we move into the holiday season, a time that can bring joy, stress, tenderness, and everything in between, I wanted to share something I created that might offer support. It’s called the Drama Triangle Reflection Guide. I designed it as a gentle space to explore challenging dynamics, notice the roles we slip into, and reconnect with clarity and compassion. If you’d like to try it, comment link and i will send it to you. It’s free to use, simply an invitation to pause and check in with yourself during this busy season. Wishing you warmth, spaciousness, and ease.

I wanted to expand on something that landed for me while teaching the Four Ins yesterday. When we set intentions without first doing our intake, we’re often setting ourselves up for overwhelm. We create expectations we don’t have the capacity to hold, which almost guarantees a sense of failure before we’ve even started. Intake isn’t a throwaway step. It’s how we honestly gauge our capacity in this moment so that our intentions are grounded instead of aspirational. From that grounded place, everything else we practice makes sense. Yesterday I guided the group through Wait–What–Watch, the STATES model, and the triangle, weaving in the points of ease. We closed with the 5 C’s — clarity, consideration, curiosity, choice, and change. Seeing how each layer built on the next reminded me why these frameworks work so well together. They’re not just ideas to think about; they’re tools to help us move from reaction into presence, and from presence into empowered action. And here’s the piece that feels especially relevant in this space: when triggers show up, they’re not evidence of failure. They’re information about the work still available to us. When we’ve honestly done our intake and gauged our capacity, those moments become even more valuable. We’re not setting an intention bigger than what we can hold right now, so every trigger becomes a clue rather than a collapse. I’ll be sharing more later.