Interesting article on writing thank you notes, gratitude and our brains :) https://siliconcanals.com/s-t-psychology-says-people-who-still-handwrite-thank-you-notes-instead-of-texting-dont-just-have-good-manners-they-process-gratitude-at-a-neurological-depth-that-changes-how-they-experience-relationsh/

I have a lot of trouble not being fully aware of a situation and where work is concerned I am really struggling not knowing everything that is going on. How do you all just “let things go?” My anxiety is triggered bc this need to know goes back to my very, very early childhood.

I am doing this class alongside Doula 101 at IDLM and am not yet in the groove of the routine and missed 2/1 class. I had it in my mind (not calendar) that is was this Sunday. I do have a question as I muddle through the class work. Where do you download the Loss Inventory Tool that is referenced multiple times? I have it in my book but would appreciate a printed version as I’m sure this will change over time.

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🌿A “Word of the Year” isn’t a resolution with better PR. It’s a north star in your pocket—something you can reach for when life gets loud, messy, or exhausting. It’s not about perfection. It's about direction. 💡 Why one word works Goals can feel like homework. A word shows up in real life: - When you’re about to overcommit - When you’re reacting instead of responding - When you’re tempted to quit - When you’re choosing everyone else over yourself Your word becomes a simple question: “What would my word do here?” ✅ Quick Word-Picking Process (10 minutes) Grab a notebook or piece of paper. Write 3 lists: More of: Less of: Let go of: Circle what has the most emotional charge. That’s usually the doorway. Now ask: What’s the theme underneath?Overwhelm → Focus / SteadinessSelf-judgment → GraceClenching + holding on → ReleaseFeeling flat/numb → Joy / LoveFear + playing small → Ownership / Wildflower 🔥 The 3 Tests (to choose the right one) Pick your top 3 words and test them: 1) Bad-Day TestOn a hard day, does this word help… or shame you? 2) Whisper TestSay: “This year, I choose ___.”If your body softens or your eyes get spicy (teary), pay attention. 3) Behavior TestCan you name 3 actions this word would change? If not, it’s too vague. 🌸 Words already in our community Wildflower • Focus • Perseverance • Joy • Deep Breath • Embrace • Release • Grace • Ownership • Devoted • Steadiness • Peace • Tolerance • Love 👉If you’re choosing from these, try finishing one sentence: “This year, my word will help me practice ______.” 🧷 Make it REAL (not just pretty) Choose 1–2 anchors: - Put your word on your phone wallpaper - Write a daily question: “What would (WORD) do here?” - Pick one micro-ritual (ex, one deep breath before emails, meals, hard conversations) - Do a monthly reset: “Where did I live my word? Where did I drift?” A word becomes powerful when it changes tiny moments. That’s where your year is actually made. 👇 Comment below