This is a longer reflection. You can read, listen, or simply take what resonates. The Goo Goo Dolls — Acoustic #3 There are certain songs that don’t just become favorites—they become companions. For me, that song is “Acoustic #3” from Dizzy Up the Girl by the Goo Goo Dolls. The album came out shortly after my initial disclosure of CSA. Looking back, I wasn’t just listening to music—I was trying to find language for something I didn’t yet have words for. One of the deepest impacts of childhood trauma wasn’t only what happened to me—it was learning to question my own reality. I grew up in a home where truth and fiction were blurred. I was told things that weren’t true and believed them because I trusted the adults around me. After disclosure, I was expected to continue relating to the people who had harmed me as though nothing had changed. My body knew one reality while I was being asked to live another. For a child, that’s impossible to reconcile. When your reality is questioned often enough, you begin to question yourself. “Acoustic #3” gave me something different—not answers, but a place where the questions could exist without needing to be solved. As an autistic woman with ADHD, I experience the world through pattern, repetition, and rhythm. The simplicity of the song, the looping guitar, the quiet unresolved feeling—it gave my nervous system something steady to rest against. I didn’t understand that then. I only knew I needed to press repeat. Over and over. Like something in me was trying to stay close to a feeling I couldn’t yet name. When I was overwhelmed, I would float in an inner tube and spin in circles—trying to match my outside with what my inside felt like. And in hindsight, the music did something similar. The looping guitar didn’t rush me out of it. It stayed with me inside it. It held the circle. Not to trap me—but to soften it. I didn’t always know why it mattered so much. Later, during autistic burnout—when I was slowly moving out of survival mode—I found my way back to it.

Hey everyone, I wanted to ask your advice on any group rules you think we should add. I'm open to any suggestions and would appreciate your insight! 1. Confidentiality: Please take these meetings in private locations or wear headphones. Since this is a women's support group, no men should be present. 2. Keep shares under 5 minutes. If you're someone who shares often, be mindful of leaving space for others. 3. Don't give advice unless someone explicitly asks for it. 4. Maintain boundaries around connecting outside of the group and giving our personal information.

This Sunday, we will walk through a guide to understanding the stages of grief. The stages of grief are: 1) Denial 2) Anger 3) Bargaining 4) Depression 5) Acceptance I know it sounds like a heavy topic, but having the information can help move through hard times with more understanding and empowerment 💜 As always, under CLASSROOM you can find our meeting link, past presentations, place to donate, and the anonymous feedback form.

Part two of Self Forgiveness, since we did not get through the presentation last time due to my wifi issues. Unfortunately, I am still in the same place with bad wifi, however, Sarah has agreed to help as backup to share the presentation so that we can get through it. The presentation is under 'classroom.'

I recently re-read a few chapters in The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk, MD, and this book felt like one of those things that found me at the right time. I came across it while I was visiting a holistic herb shop during a trip to Florida a few years back. I wasn’t necessarily looking for this exact book in that moment, but something about it caught my attention — and I’m really grateful I followed that little nudge. This book helped me better understand trauma, PTSD, and the deeper layers of complex/developmental trauma — not just as something that lives in our thoughts, but as something that can be stored and carried within our bodies. One of the biggest things I took away was learning the importance of getting to know our internal landscape — becoming aware of what our bodies are communicating, noticing our patterns and responses, and understanding that healing is possible when we create new pathways instead of staying stuck in old survival responses. The neuroscience around the fear-driven mind, painful memories, and how our brains and bodies adapt to trauma was fascinating. It gave me a deeper understanding of why awareness, safety, connection, and compassion are such important parts of healing. This book helped me see myself with more compassion. It reminded me that healing isn’t about judging the ways we survived — it’s about practicing radical acceptance, extending self forgiveness, and learning to move forward with a deeper understanding of ourselves. I will say this book can be heavy and includes some graphic examples of people’s experiences, so I think it’s something to approach with care and at the right time in your own journey. But for me, it was a powerful resource that helped me connect the dots, understand myself differently, and continue moving forward with more compassion. “Trauma is not the story of something that happened back then. It’s the current imprint of that pain on the body, brain, and nervous system.” This book reminded me that healing is not about erasing what happened — it’s about learning how to live differently with new awareness, understanding, and compassion for ourselves.