Usually when I get defensive I am unwilling to feel or communicate one of my emotions. Which of these do you think is the most common one that causes you or your partner to get defensive? Anger- Shame - Guilt - Fear - Lonely - Sad - Hurt -

Situation: Arrive home from work feeling unwell and passive aggressive towards my wife. Shame: from underperforming as a husband, father and son. Guilt: not communicating and spread love with my family Fear: Am I gonna change? Be a better husband. Joy: Wife approached to me to talk and repair before go to bed, we had the conversation about it, the repair made our love tank full. Lonely: felt like life is so busy that we don’t have time to each other. Hurt: to be passive aggressive Sad: Skip gym Anger: my passive aggressive towards the family, and wrong expectations towards them. The emotion wheel was done during a coffee date.

If you’re open to it I’d love to hear what your family looks like too?