Howdy. I'm here because a 5 year relationship is crumbing. I recognize that my childhood trauma has lead to behavioral patterns that conflict with what I truly want-- peace. Security mean feeling safe from judgement so that I don't need to mask. Recently diagnosed as AuDHD instead of 30+ years of ADHD. I mask & I am avoidant, I'd rather not ruin a moment (and instead risk ruining relationships). I just want to pretend everything is ok and the hurt will disappear. In general, I over explain (hello AuDHD) and try to teach too much. In my mind I'm helping, but really I'm making people feel inferior. When I am hurt, I spew venom. I struggle with judgement-- I criticize things/people/methods that aren't how I would do them an while I think I'm just sharing perspective in hopes of broadening another's, I make my partner feel like I think I know better than him and it all just ends up feeling like a mess. I need to learn how to not make my triggers anyone else's responsibility & instead of allowing myself to react to triggers, instead communicate (respond) gently and maturely. It's not just what I say, but how I say it.

@Rachel Beaudette thank you! I've watched the masterclass already and I loved it. I look forward to checking out the two you've suggested via your website 🙏🏼