Ever wondered how many times in a row a man can have sex? Or how long sex is “supposed” to last? 🧠 Let’s unpack the myths and get into the science. ✅ On average, studies show that penile-vaginal intercourse lasts 5–7 minutes. In a large multinational study of 500 heterosexual couples, the median intravaginal ejaculation latency time (IELT) that’s from penetration to ejaculation was 5.4 minutes ✅ Most men need a refractory period (aka recovery time) after orgasm. The range in the study was extremely wide: from under 1 minute to over 44 minutes. That could be a few minutes… or a few hours. It gets longer with age, stress, alcohol, or lack of sleep. And yes porn completely lies about this. ✅ Women? We don’t have a refractory period. Which is why some women can have multiple orgasms but only if they feel safe, connected, and actually turned on. ✅ Research on multiple orgasms in men is limited, and while some men report them, they are rare 🔍 How This Changes the Narrative - If you’re chasing “30‑minute sex” or multiple rounds back‑to‑back every time — you’re chasing a myth. - Knowing the average is ~5-7 minutes helps you let go of the clock and focus on what really matters: pleasure, connection, presence. - The variations (range up to 44 minutes and beyond) mean what’s normal is wide, there’s no single “right” number. - The refractory period isn’t a flaw. it’s natural and influenced by many factors (age, health, novelty). - So if you’re worried you “can’t go again” fast, or you’re done in “too short” a time. it might just be your physiology + context, not a failure. 🔥 Guys, this part is for you: If you’ve ever felt pressure to perform, go multiple rounds, or always be ready… you’re not alone. But stamina isn’t just physical. It’s emotional. Mental. Nervous-system based. 👇 So tell me: What’s helped you last longer, stay present, or enjoy sex more? Breathing? Kegels? Better foreplay? Mindset shifts? Drop your tips in the comments. let’s support each other. 🔥

A few years ago I stopped taking male clients. The reason was simple: repeatedly, instead of professional requests I received sexualized messages and boundary-crossing propositions. About 70% of incoming “requests” are sexual in nature, not therapeutic. So let me be crystal clear: If you are here to fantasize, flirt, or seek intimacy with a therapist - leave now. I will not tolerate it Nor waste my time. Maybe you wonder Why they do it? • Confusion of care and sexuality — some men cannot separate being cared for from being a sexual opportunity. • Erotic transference acted out — instead of reflecting on projections, they act on them. • Objectification — female professionals are reduced to sexual objects rather than respected for their expertise. • Avoidance through fantasy — turning therapy into a sexual outlet to escape real vulnerability and shame. And yes — online anonymity lowers inhibition, but many men behave this way offline too. The pattern is real. ‼️ If you’re here to project fantasies — you’re not ready for therapy and you don’t belong in this community.‼️ ‼️ Community note: If you receive similar messages — screenshot, block, report, and DM me. We will document and act. This space is a professional, boundaried container. Respect it or leave. I also know that most people on Skool are different. You’re here to grow, to exchange ideas, to support each other, not to cross boundaries. That’s why I chose this platform, I believe in creating a space where conversations are real, respectful, and transformative. And I’m grateful to everyone who’s part of that. ❤️

In classic psychoanalysis, there are two opposing forces: 🌱 Libido from Latin libīdō = desire, longing, drive.This is your life energy: your urge to connect, create, feel pleasure, grow.It fuels sex, art, relationships, joy and aliveness itself. 🌑 Mortido from Latin mors = death. This is the destructive pull: inward aggression, apathy, shutdown, withdrawal. It shows up in depression, self-sabotage, burnout, addiction. These energies live inside all of us. They’re not “good” or “bad” but how we channel them matters. Feeling “low libido”? It might not be hormonal - it could be mortido taking the wheel. • Constant hustle without rest? That’s libido pushed into burnout - which flips into mortido. • Reconnecting to your desires, body, and pleasure activates libido and brings life back in. The body wants to feel alive. But when we suppress emotion, avoid intimacy, or carry unprocessed pain mortido grows quietly in the dark. 🛠 Want to bring libido back? – Move your body (yes, even for 5 minutes) – Dance, scream, cry, shake - let the emotion go – Say something you’ve been afraid to say – Touch yourself like someone who deserves pleasure – Be wildly honest with someone you trust

Your libido is not broken. It’s evolving. Whether you’re in your 20s or 50s, in a new relationship or recovering from burnout fluctuations in desire are part of the human experience. Libido is not a fixed trait It’s a dynamic expression of your body, mind, and emotional world. 🧠 lets break if down - What is LIBIDO, actually? In science, libido refers to sexual desire but it’s shaped by much more than just hormones. Your libido is influenced by: • Hormonal health (testosterone, estrogen, oxytocin, dopamine) • Mental health (stress, anxiety, depression, trauma) • Lifestyle (sleep, movement, nutrition, alcohol, medication)• Relationships (emotional connection, communication, conflict) • Life phases (parenthood, career shifts, menopause, aging) 🐥 In Your 20s Often seen as the "peak" of sexual drive — especially due to higher testosterone levels in all genders. But also: – Many people experience performance anxiety or emotional confusion – Sex may be fueled by curiosity or validation more than by authentic connection – Communication is often still developing which impacts satisfaction 🧒🏼 In Your 30s Desire becomes more connected to emotional intimacy. – For women: hormonal shifts, motherhood, birth control can impact libido – For men: early signs of testosterone changes may appear – Stress and life load start to matter more than “horny hormones” – Couples often face mismatched libidos or struggle to keep the spark alive 👨 In your 40s and after Forget the myths: this can be the most liberated and pleasurable phase. – Women enter perimenopause/menopause — desire may dip or surge – Men experience andropause — gradual testosterone changes – But the real shift? Quality > quantity – Sex becomes about depth, connection, embodiment – If there's safety and self-awareness desire becomes richer, not weaker 😏 What else affects libido? – Chronic stress hijacks the nervous system and kills desire – SSRI antidepressants often lower libido – Unprocessed shame or trauma can block arousal

New here? Let’s not be strangers. 🍉Where are you from? 🍉What brought you here? 🍉What would you like to learn/find here? 🍉Maybe one thing we should know about you? I’ll go first 👀