The two are closely linked and understanding this can help you be patient and gentle with your conflict approaches and growth. One key thing to consider: the body cannot respond fully if the nervous system is over activated!! De-escalating yourself first is important to creating solutions and respect you and other's boundaries.

When we're in conflict we might not realize how we usually slip into one or a variation of FIVE STYLES: • AVOIDANT: "I don't want to deal" • ACCOMMODATING: "I am willing to deal the way you want" • COMPROMISING: "I am willing to deal by adjusting some of my needs" • COMPETITIVE: "My needs are the only thing I want to deal with" • COLLABORATING: "we can make new solutions together to deal with" Depending on the situation and person sometimes the efforts might be different. But all forms of styles are applicable for anyone to use. If you knew there were other methods and styles to deep with a conflict, would you take it?

My name is Kristal, I've been doing mediation and community work for 10 years and am now putting on trainings and workshops to help others be their own peace builders. What are some of your favorite methods to help bring peace to your life and loved ones? I'll go first, I love taking the time to check in with people emotionally after any heavy conversations to make sure they felt fully heard.