This is not romance advice. These are the things i would say about any healthy relationship. Healthy relationships require structure I would break structure into standards, responsibility, the ability to repair and healthy communication. A lot of people try to model their relationships after the structure they see online or in movies. This doesn't work because *NEWSFLASH* at best the people online are showing you their highlight reel.. at worst like the movies what they are showing you doesn't exist it's meant to tantalize and or entertain. Structure is the framework which the people in the relationship agree to. There is no uniform structure that all friendships, families or romantic relationships can or will follow and work well. What I have seen work are a mixture of curiosity, vulnerability and mutual respect. Those traits will lead to actions that help relationships to succeed and thrive long term. They drive everything from the desire to see the other person do well to wanting to share fun or interesting experiences together. Lastly, comparing your relationships to other relationships or worse yet to imaginary ones is the root of a lot of bitterness and despair. It's funny one of the major things I share in all of my best relationships is the ability to laugh together. Even through the hard times. How are you planning to level up your relationships in the next month or season?

I've been thinking about this for the last bit What would be the first three things I would tell someone starting their finamcial investing journey to do? I came up with. 1. Get to understand your financial picture. What income, expenses, debts, benefits do you have? 2. Why are you investing? What's your goal or goals? 3. Are you leaving money on the table now? Either free money or money you are spending on stuff that you do not need or are not enjoying? Any other thoughts? Anyone want to have an investing chat?

We all have different happy places. One of mine is around cars and tech. I geek out learning about all the new tech. But also I love seeing cats that bring me back. What's your happy place or places?

Had some thoughts about grief today while I was on my walk. Nothing fancy but i thought I'd share.

Your brain reacts to what’s going on around you and your body is impacted by it physically. Your environment is made up of the physical space and the things around you. This isn’t about being “neat” in the sense that your parents, your former drill sergeant or picky roommate would approve of. 1. Your space should be cleaned regularly. The dust and dirt can have bad effects on your health. This doesn’t mean you need to go full “white glove” on your house but sweep the floor, clean your toilet and bathroom with the appropriate disinfectants and wipe down your cooking areas. If you have means to hire a cleaner there is no shame and I have had a few clients see the helpful results of having someone come in and do this work. It’s worth every penny. For me putting on my favorite music and getting to it is almost meditational.   2. Your space should inspire you or at least allow you to focus. At the very least It shouldn’t keep you from being able to work.  Art, toys, pictures of loved ones or favorite memories, plants, rugs, quotes, any of this can help.  3. Clutter. Remove it or place it  strategically. There is nothing wrong with holding on to things you need at hand. Anything else needs to go into some kind of out of sight storage if you are privileged to have that option. If not, you should try to organize it. Organization is not everyone's gift so you may need to pay someone to help you with it or find a community member who has this gift.  Any other thoughts on your environment? Also.. I am going to clean my office today.