Seriously—have you ever stopped to ask yourself that? How do you heal? Not how you think you should… Not how you were told to growing up… Not what your therapist said should work by now… But how do you actually heal? I’ve seen it again and again in myself, in our clients, in the communities we serve: We get this picture in our mind of what healing “has to” look like. We tell ourselves: “If I could just get out of here…” “If I can control this conversation…” “If I do this type of therapy, or that kind of retreat, then I’ll be good.” “If THEY would just change, apologize, or finally get it—then I’ll heal.” But all that is… is CONTROL. Wrapped up in pretty paper labeled “self-awareness.” The truth is, most of us don’t want healing. We want predictable, manageable, convenient healing. But real healing? It’s disruptive. It shows up in the middle of mess, often through people and processes we didn’t choose. It stretches us in ways that don’t feel cute or clean or Insta-worthy. Why? Because real healing is HUMBLING. It forces us to let go of the plan. To surrender the timeline. To unhook from the fantasy that we’re the ones in control. And that’s scary—especially when we’ve spent our whole lives protecting ourselves from pain, rejection, abandonment, failure. But here’s the shift that changed everything for me: Healing doesn’t come when I’m finally comfortable… it comes when I’m finally willing. Willing to feel. Willing to be wrong. Willing to let God use people, places, and timing I never would have picked. So I’ll ask again: How do you heal? Are you leaving room for God to surprise you? Or are you unknowingly blocking your breakthrough because it’s not coming in the package you ordered? I’ve been there. And I’ll probably be there again. But the more I release the “how,” the more I encounter the who— The God who sees me. The people who mirror truth. The moments that call me higher. Let your healing be wild. Let it be messy. Let it be divine. Because honey , breakthrough doesn’t need your permission.

⸻ Do We Throw Out the Baby with the Bath Water? With nearly 80% of our clientele coming from Anabaptist backgrounds, we’ve been on a journey of deep learning. The nuances… the layers… the unspoken codes. The culture runs deep. And so does the programming. We’ve walked through the heartbreak and the breakthrough. We’ve sat at kitchen tables, inside barns, at weddings, and in the quiet of late-night conversations—listening for the heartbeat beneath the lifestyle. This past weekend, while at a wedding in Ohio, one of our clients couldn’t wait to dress us up. Amish threads, head to toe. Her face? Pure delight—laughing hysterically as she saw us fully suited in her world. It was one of those moments you never forget. And it stirred something in me. After all the years of walking people out of high-control environments, I’ve noticed something consistent: It’s rarely the clothes or the chores people are running from. It’s the control. The emotional repression. The weaponized guilt. The abuse of Scripture in the name of order. But once the heart begins to heal… A tenderness often returns. A deep appreciation for what was beautiful—community, family, work ethic, simplicity, rhythm. So much richness is there… if you know how to look for it. And while we never shy away from naming the abuse—because the trauma is real—we also don’t believe healing has to equal hatred. So I’ll ask you this: When you leave a culture, religion, or community that hurt you… Do you carry offense forever? Or can you do the work to reconcile your heart? Can you sift through the rubble and find something worth keeping? That’s what maturity looks like. That’s what healing invites. And that’s what allows us to walk in wholeness, not just freedom. What have you learned to appreciate again—after leaving it behind? ⸻ #highcontrolreligion #amish #mennonite #anababtist #freedom #healing #reconciliation #epicyourlife

⸻ This anniversary trip to Greece wasn’t just a celebration— It was an intentional pause. A sacred decision to be fully present with each other. To step away from the full weight of leadership, mentorship, and business… And to trust that our team would carry the mission with excellence— and that our clients would be well cared for in our absence, and boy were they! Because presence is a choice. And in a world that constantly demands more, choosing to be instead of do is a radical act of love. We released responsibilities. We gave ourselves permission to exhale. And we fully enjoyed what we had been dreaming of for years: Exploring ancient lands. Immersing in culture. Savoring food, fun, and adventure. And filling our cups—I cant say with rest 🤣, but with each other. This trip reminded us that joy is a discipline. That connection takes intention. And that love, when nurtured, keeps evolving. And now—we return full. Full of gratitude, full of clarity, and full of awe… Because our homecoming is met with three weddings. Three couples who’ve walked through the process. Who are stepping into covenant—equipped with confidence, communication, and commitment. It’s overwhelming in the best way. This is the fruit. This is the calling. And this is why we keep showing up. Grateful to live it, to lead it, and to love through it all. ⸻ Warning—- More pics and videos to come!!!🥰😊 #Greekislands #anniversarytrip #intentionality #personalgrowth #mindset #leadership #duplication #weddings #love #fruit #gratitude #epicyourlife

You’ve heard the example…. Put one crab in a bucket, and it’ll climb out. Put a few together? They’ll fight to keep each other down. That’s the classic victim mentality. It’s not just pain—it’s pain that refuses to grow. It’s a mindset that says, “If I can’t rise, neither can you.” And most often unintentionally!! It blames. It makes excuses. It justifies. It surrounds itself with people who say, “You’re right. Life did you dirty, Lets talk about all the ways.” Let’s be real— Misery LOVES company… it needs it, it feeds it and pretty soon the blame game keeps the party going so long that you cant see a way out. That’s the danger… The longer you stay in that mindset, The more you start building a home in the very place you were meant to escape. You defend dysfunction. You protect your wounds. You get offended by freedom. And worst of all? You start pulling others down the moment they reach for more. It’s a slippery slope— One excuse turns into a lifestyle. One hurt becomes your identity. And before you know it, your whole story is about what happened to you instead of what God wants to do through you. Here’s the truth: Victimhood is a trap. You don’t escape it by being right. You escape it by being responsible. You were born to climb. To break cycles. To become the one who doesn’t stay in the bucket—no matter who tries to pull you back. Victim or victor? Crab or climber? Cycle-breaker or crowd-pleaser? You get to choose. Every. Single. Day. #crabs #victim #victor #excuses #noexcuses #choice #blame #responsibility #awareness #guardyourgrowth #character #epicyourlife

March Squat Challenge…..It Was Never Just About the Squats We knew April and May would be packed with travel, so when our gym rolled out the March squat challenge, I was all in. It aligned with my sculpting goals, gave me something to push toward, and turned into a fun (and fiery) competition with Carlos. Then one day… a girl passed my number. And that was it. Game. On. I didn’t pout. I didn’t doubt. I made a decision. I was going to win. And when I make up my mind? It’s over. Carlos gave me a run for it. The man doesn’t back down easy. But I didn’t let the pain, the schedule, or the competition shake me. I pushed through the soreness. I stayed consistent. I kept the fire lit. Final day? We both did 500 squats. Many of them weighted. (Don’t recommend.) At one point, Hazel asked, “What do you win?” I laughed, “Bragging rights.” But let’s be real… I win for me. For the mindset. For the example. For the results. And for the reminder that I can do hard things—and finish strong. That’s what it takes in life: Marriage. Business. Health. Legacy. Decide. Show up. Don’t quit. That’s how you win. #squats #challenge #competition #soremuscles #fitness #sculpting #goals #hardwork #epicyourlife