For many men, the moment their marriage reaches crisis becomes the turning point of their life. Not because the crisis is easy. But because it forces growth that might never have happened otherwise. Many of the strongest men I work with began their transformation in this exact moment. Reflection question: What is one way this experience has already forced you to grow? If you want help continuing that journey, you can book a call here: https://calendly.com/mark-markcoxcoaching/marriage-strategy-call And remember - I’m LIVE here every THURSDAY at 5 pm.

Great to be back on another live coaching call inside the Marriage Recovery Community today. Really good to connect with a few of you, hear about the progress you’re making, and also the real challenges you’re navigating right now. That mix is where the work happens. We were also joined by Dan, who’s currently inside the Marriage Recovery System, and he shared some of the gains he’s made since first joining the community. Appreciate you speaking openly, it makes a difference for the other men hearing what’s actually possible when you stay in the work. We also touched on a few book recommendations I often come back to, so I wanted to drop them here for anyone who wants to go deeper: - The Masculine in Relationship by GS Youngbloodhttps://www.amazon.com/s?k=The+Masculine+in+Relationship+GS+Youngblood - Better Man, Better Marriage by Jeff Borkoskihttps://www.amazon.com/s?k=Better+Man+Better+Marriage+Jeff+Borkoski - The Way of the Superior Man by David Deidahttps://www.amazon.com/s?k=The+Way+of+the+Superior+Man+David+Deida All three of these will challenge you in different ways, but if you actually apply what’s in them, they can shift how you show up as a man, not just in your marriage, but in your life. Happy reading, and I’ll see you all Thursday for the next bite-sized training.

Most men think their marriage suddenly collapsed. But in reality, relationships usually move through stages: Comfort Emotional drift Resentment Withdrawal Crisis Understanding this pattern helps men make sense of what happened. Reflection question: Looking back, which stage do you think your relationship was in before separation? If you want to talk about your situation, you can book a call here: https://calendly.com/mark-markcoxcoaching/marriage-strategy-call Reminder -live Q&A in this group Thursday at 5 pm.

Im realizing so much since I’ve began working on myself. This is the hardest task that I’ve experienced, self growth. I’m seeing that my behavior has been the biggest factor of why my relationship has got where it is. I used to blame my wife for her behavior but she was just mirroring mine for the most part. I’m taking radical accountability for myself and why I’m where I am bc I’m not even the man I’d look up to. I became weak, needy, bitchy, not consistent, blame full, lazy. I was reactive instead of responsive and I didn’t listen, I pretty much was acting like a child in my relationship instead of a man. I wondered why my wife didn’t want sex…. I’m seeing why now. I used sex to regulate my emotions, I thought just bc I was the husband and all that I did that sex should just be given. Wrong!! I’m not sure why I’m writing this, maybe for accountability, maybe for finally realizing my bullshit. I’m trying to get past whatever the outcome will be with my wife. Im going to have faith that I can become the man that I’d would look up to and the man that others would want to be. Stay positive guys. We can do this!!

Had an interesting interaction with my wife yesterday. She started a new job online, she called me very upset and in a panic, she was trying not to cry bc her mind went blank on the steps she was to do to get started. I told her to just breath, that everything was going to be ok, that the situation was scary since it was her first day and that she was very smart and that it would come to mind how to get started. Even got a hug that evening. I’m going to continue to be the best version of myself for moments like this. She showed vulnerability that hasn’t been shown in quite some time.