Lost my uncle and a close friend in the last two weeks. Not gonna dress it up… it’s been heavy. And I know exactly what the old version of me would’ve done —straight back on the booze. No question. That would’ve been the answer.Numb it. Block it out. Pretend I’m alright. But this time… I haven’t touched it.And I’m not going to. Not because I’m strong or switched on or anything like that…just because I’ve been down that road enough times to know where it ends. And it’s not somewhere I’m willing to go back to. That, for me, is a win. Not a loud one. No big celebration.But it matters. Made me think though… What do you run to when things get hard? Booze?Food?Scrolling?Shutting yourself off? We all have something. But the real shift happens when you start catching it…and choosing something different. Even if no one else sees it. That’s the stuff that actually changes you.

I have been teaching a course this weekend (it's Easter next week in Cyprus) The Learners all come from a service background Inc Police, Army, NHS and Close Protection. The course was an education and training course. Yesterday, the learners were fairly quite. They did all the tasks I set, and did them well. Today however, saw the Learners Turn a corners and opened up on their previous lives. All bar 2 shared that they suffer from PTSD following previous occupations and the incidents they have been exposed to. This arose during my lesson on Reasonable Adjustments in a training environment. I sat back and let the Learners talk to each other (it was via zoom) about their disorders. My rationale was 'This could be a therapy session' You just don't know what will pop up when teaching and what can trigger such a turn.

Imagine we were sitting around a fire for a minute. No pressure, no pretending… just a bit of honesty. Here’s a question I’ve been thinking about lately. Would you be proud of the example you’re currently setting for your kids? Not the version you plan to be one day. Not the version you talk about becoming. The man you are right now. - The way you handle pressure - The way you treat people - The habits you show them every day - The way you deal with setbacks - The way you look after yourself Because the truth is… kids rarely listen to what we say. They copy what we do. So here’s the fire pit question today: If your kids grew up to live exactly the way you live now… would you be proud of that example? No judgement here. Just a moment to think about it. If you’re open to sharing, drop your thoughts below.

I didn’t sleep last night……too many things running through my head. I met my sister for the first time last night…. It was great to meet her and sit and talk to what happened to us both….i gave her a cuddle and it was like we had known each other forever! The old me wasn’t capable of meeting her as he was too angry and lost in the past….new me welcomed the moment and it’s helping me grow into the man I know is waiting….. If you have things from the past that haunt you…..face them head on! This was the same situation last week when I also met my brother for the first time. Control your chaos…..don’t let it control you

How do people. Hopeyou are all good. Just got in here. Listened to all the podcasts and thought this is definitely a bit of me, so im pleased to be part of the community 😊