I am here because I have learned my patterns in relationships and can identify them until I’m blue in the face, but want to learn to actually change the pattern and taking action after I identify it. What brings you here right now? I think support will help to keep me accountable and hear real life examples of how other people choose to do different. • What type of relationship are you most wanting to improve? Relationship and personal with myself • When conflict happens, what’s your default pattern? Withdraw and then go to extremes and internalize negative feelings and blame myself/feed the self hate and self sabotage. Stop caring • What does “secure” feel like to you? When I have room to improve myself rather than worrying about bettering the other person or worrying about their responses to me being traumatic. • What is one relational pattern you’re ready to take ownership of? Not communicating my feelings/needs and instead just shutting down and getting resentful