Last post, we talked about how we pull up a chair next to the right player without coming off like a creep. I promised I'd show you how to turn that into a stupidly-easy YES. So here we are. We did it right. We walked up handing him a win, not begging for one. He's curious. He's leaning in. And THIS is the exact moment most of us snatch defeat from the jaws of victory. Because the second someone leans in, every instinct screams: lock it down. Before the mojo got strong in me, I was the poster child for this. The whole enchilada would come flying out at once: "𝘚𝘰 𝘐 𝘸𝘢𝘴 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘯𝘬𝘪𝘯𝘨… 𝘭𝘪𝘤𝘦𝘯𝘴𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘥𝘦𝘢𝘭, 𝘥𝘳𝘰𝘱 𝘮𝘺 𝘵𝘰𝘰𝘭 𝘪𝘯 𝘺𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘧𝘶𝘯𝘯𝘦𝘭, 𝘴𝘱𝘭𝘪𝘵 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘳𝘦𝘷𝘦𝘯𝘶𝘦 𝘧𝘰𝘳𝘦𝘷𝘦𝘳, 𝘴𝘪𝘨𝘯 𝘢𝘯 𝘢𝘨𝘳𝘦𝘦𝘮𝘦𝘯𝘵, 𝘢𝘯 𝘕𝘋𝘈… 𝘮𝘢𝘺𝘣𝘦 𝘭𝘰𝘰𝘱 𝘪𝘯 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘭𝘢𝘸𝘺𝘦𝘳𝘴?" And you can watch it happen in real time. Eyes glaze. Shoulders climb up to the ears. And out come the four most expensive words in business: "𝘓𝘦𝘵 𝘮𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘯𝘬 𝘢𝘣𝘰𝘶𝘵 𝘪𝘵." (Which, for the record, is the polite version of "get the hell out of my face.") The match was PERFECT. Ace, King, Queen, Jack… all hearts. The 10 he's missing is right there in my hand. So what the heck went wrong? Picture proposing marriage to someone you met four minutes ago. Asking her middle name so you can book the flight to meet your parents. Reading her the names of the eight kids she's going to birth for you… Unless something’s wrong in her upstairs noggin’... She's going to bolt. Soulmate or not. But coffee? "𝘌𝘩, 𝘴𝘶𝘳𝘦. 𝘞𝘩𝘺 𝘯𝘰𝘵." That's the entire game with these deals. In the Mojo universe… We don't propose. We ask for coffee. Coffee sounds like a ridiculously small ask: "𝘏𝘦𝘺, 𝘐 𝘥𝘰𝘯’𝘵 𝘬𝘯𝘰𝘸 𝘪𝘧 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘴 𝘪𝘴 𝘨𝘰𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘵𝘰 𝘸𝘰𝘳𝘬. 𝘐 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘯𝘬 𝘺𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘱𝘦𝘦𝘱𝘴 𝘸𝘪𝘭𝘭 𝘥𝘪𝘨 𝘪𝘵 (𝘢𝘥𝘥 𝘸𝘩𝘺 𝘺𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘵𝘰𝘰𝘭/𝘤𝘰𝘶𝘳𝘴𝘦/𝘸𝘩𝘢𝘵𝘦𝘷𝘦𝘳 𝘴𝘰𝘭𝘷𝘦𝘴 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘴 𝘣𝘪𝘨-𝘢𝘴𝘴 𝘱𝘳𝘰𝘣𝘭𝘦𝘮 𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘺 𝘸𝘢𝘯𝘵 𝘵𝘰 𝘨𝘦𝘵 𝘳𝘪𝘥 𝘰𝘧𝘧)... 𝘉𝘶𝘵 𝘺𝘰𝘶’𝘭𝘭 𝘤𝘦𝘳𝘵𝘢𝘪𝘯𝘭𝘺 𝘭𝘰𝘰𝘬 𝘭𝘪𝘬𝘦 𝘢 𝘩𝘦𝘳𝘰 𝘧𝘰𝘳 𝘨𝘦𝘵𝘵𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘮 𝘢 𝘨𝘳𝘦𝘢𝘵 𝘥𝘦𝘢𝘭. 𝘓𝘦𝘵'𝘴 𝘵𝘦𝘴𝘵 𝘖𝘕𝘌 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘯𝘨. 𝘋𝘳𝘰𝘱 𝘮𝘺 𝘵𝘰𝘰𝘭 𝘣𝘦𝘩𝘪𝘯𝘥 𝘢 𝘴𝘪𝘯𝘨𝘭𝘦 𝘭𝘪𝘯𝘬 𝘪𝘯 𝘺𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘯𝘦𝘹𝘵 𝘦𝘮𝘢𝘪𝘭.