Ohhh today's challenge is gonna be action oriented. Make eye contact and smile at 3 people during your day. No full conversation needed. Just practice being present and friendly. Share your experience here in the comments or by making your own post here in the community tab!

It’s WIN WEDNESDAY! Before Thanksgiving hits, let’s ground ourselves in gratitude and celebrate the good things happening in our lives. What are you proud of this week? What are you grateful for? Drop it in the comments and let’s hype each other up 👇

Name: Richard Location: Winter Park, FL What brought you here / What made you join this group?: Honestly, I have had a terrible time of dating. Some of it has been my choices, my decisions, things I've done, things I haven't done. Some of it the people I choose, and honestly not being able to sift through the pile effectively enough to get what I need in life. What’s one thing you’d like to improve or get clarity on in your dating life? Communication for one, and where to find people that I might vibe with is another Fun fact about you (optional): I really love pinball, which is so old school but honestly, I grew up with a friend who had one and I've been hooked for a very long time

Hi all. This is something I've struggled with is basing my 'self worth' low because I am single. It's the only last couple of months where I have really gained strength and to realise this doesn't mean squat. Yes, it'd be amazing to not be single, but sometimes I've found as humans we strive to achieve a label or be a part of a group. The epiphany; if you can't be happy alone what makes you think that someone coming into your life will cure that loneliness? That's not fair to be dependent on them. That's what creates insecurity, and anxiety. They'll sense it. Not sure where I wanted to go with this. Loneliness is something I've struggle with forever. Once I stopped placing pressure on myself to cure this with a significant other, the power was gone. I've also been taking a back seat in chasing anything except my Mental wellbeing and Bodybuilding. I actually found I love being by myself, and this love for oneself will be a big key and step to attract the right one to me. I sense, I've also had future visions with my 'future self'. Yeah, some mad stuff here, I sound crazy. But, usually I know deep down, I'm right. A bit of a jumble. But, conclusion: Embrace your loneliness and solitude and you'll find the negative patterns inside your mind will disappear. Happy Wednesday.

So I used to have low self esteem that led me to essentially chase after woman who were not interested in me, and feel like I did something wrong when woman would ghost me. I tried too hard too fast to try and not to lose a girl. I’ve been working on myself and have had a more positive outlook on life in general. I have been grateful for the people I do have in my life, and for the things I have. I’ve become more confident in myself and have realized that I can just be me. I can choose a girl with similar values once I find that person. And if a girl ghosts me it’s not a reflection on who I am. She just chose to not get to know me more and that’s ok. I am no longer letting whether or not a girl is interested in me define my self worth. I have been going to the gym, and exploring other hobbies that make me happy like tennis. I am at a spot where I am becoming happy with the person I am now. Not every girl will be interested in me and that’s ok. It used to get me down when a girl would reject me. After talking with Shelley I realized that the optimism I had for everyday life, I was not applying in my dating life. She also helped me realize that getting ghosted or rejected is just a redirection to another person who will value me. Now, I believe that I’ll find the person right for me eventually, so in the meantime I’m bettering myself and doing things that make me happy. I am continuing to work on myself, and I know that I can put myself out there more than I am now. Feel like doing this new hobby is a good first step as I’m meeting new people through it. I finally feel like I’m on the right track, and am actually excited for what the future holds, instead of focusing on the negatives and the rejections.