and they don’t have to be dull, distant, or sexless over time. Valentine’s season tends to bring this up. Not always in obvious ways. Sometimes it just highlights where we’ve been managing instead of connecting. Most couples don’t stop loving each other. They stop feeling safe enough to stay open. So they pull back. They react instead of speak. And the relationship slowly starts running on fear instead of connection. Fear doesn’t soften through insight alone. It changes when the nervous system experiences safety — and that happens when we practice new skills and habits together. That’s what the Power of Pleasure Summit is about (Feb 11–12, 2026). Real, practical tools for working with desire, fear, shame, and long-term intimacy, without self-blame or performance. I’ll be teaching Keeping the Spark Alive on Wednesday, Feb 11 at 1:45pm PT, sharing one simple shift to help couples move out of fear and back into connection. If this resonates, I’d love to have you there https://www.sexreimagined.com/a/2148204064/BDGmZtFa

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