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Dec '25 •
Community Agreements. Please read and put I agree in the comments
Community Agreements These agreements exist to support a brave, respectful, and genuinely supportive community. By being here, you’re agreeing to engage with care for yourself and for others. Confidentiality What’s shared in this community stays in this community.This is a space for honest conversation, vulnerability, and real connection. Respecting one another’s privacy is essential to keeping this container trustworthy. Engage at Your Own Pace There is no right way to participate. You’re welcome to share, ask questions, comment, or simply read along. Lurking is allowed. Trust your own timing, capacity, and nervous system. Respectful and Supportive Communication This space is rooted in curiosity and connection, not judgment, debate, or proving a point.While politics and personal beliefs shape our lives, this community is focused on relationships, self-growth, and meaningful conversation. Please keep posts and comments aligned with that purpose. This is not a place to argue, shame, diagnose, or fix other people. Commitment to Growth We’re here because we believe growth is possible.This community exists to deepen insight, practice new skills, and support one another in real, tangible ways, especially when things feel messy or unclear. This space is not a replacement for therapy, crisis support, or emergency care. Intentional Sharing, Advice, and Consent Speak from your own experience and listen generously.Before offering advice, ask if it’s wanted.If you’re posting, you’re welcome to name what kind of support you’re looking for, such as reflection, advice, witnessing, or something else. DM Policy Please ask before sending someone a direct message. Not everyone experiences DMs as supportive, even when intentions are good. A simple public comment like “Would you be open to a DM?” helps keep this space consensual and nervous-system aware. If someone doesn’t respond or says no, please honor that without explanation or pressure. This is not a space for graphic sexual content, explicit play-by-play, self-promotion, or soliciting clients.
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Dec '25 •
Welcome: Let's Hear about you
Welcome in — I’m really glad you’re here! To get the conversation going, I’d love to hear a little about you: - Where are you joining from? - One fun fact about you (keep it light — there’s no pressure to be deep) - What brought you here? A sentence or two is plenty. And if today is a listening day, that’s okay too. You’re welcome to read along and jump in when you’re ready. I’ll start us off in the comments. — Deborah 💛
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Yes, relationships can be challenging
and they don’t have to be dull, distant, or sexless over time. Valentine’s season tends to bring this up. Not always in obvious ways. Sometimes it just highlights where we’ve been managing instead of connecting. Most couples don’t stop loving each other. They stop feeling safe enough to stay open. So they pull back. They react instead of speak. And the relationship slowly starts running on fear instead of connection. Fear doesn’t soften through insight alone. It changes when the nervous system experiences safety — and that happens when we practice new skills and habits together. That’s what the Power of Pleasure Summit is about (Feb 11–12, 2026). Real, practical tools for working with desire, fear, shame, and long-term intimacy, without self-blame or performance. I’ll be teaching Keeping the Spark Alive on Wednesday, Feb 11 at 1:45pm PT, sharing one simple shift to help couples move out of fear and back into connection. If this resonates, I’d love to have you there https://www.sexreimagined.com/a/2148204064/BDGmZtFa
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Keeping the Spark Alive at the Power of Pleasure Summi
If you’re in a relationship where the love is there but the pleasure feels quieter, this conversation is for you. I’m teaching Keeping the Spark Alive at the Power of Pleasure Summit — a free, 2-day online event (Feb 11–12) about intimacy, desire, and the Power of Pleasure Join us https://www.sexreimagined.com/a/2148204064/BDGmZtFa
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Mission 1 · Start Here Relationships Are a Practice
One of the central ideas in my work is this: Relationships aren’t something you figure out once.They’re something you practice over time. Most of us were taught to treat love and sex like talent.If it’s right, it should be easy.If it’s hard, something must be wrong. That story creates a lot of unnecessary shame. What I see again and again is that relationships move through seasons. There are seasons of closeness and seasons of distance.Seasons of desire and seasons of exhaustion.Seasons where connection feels effortless — and seasons where what used to work simply doesn’t. Nothing has gone wrong.The season has changed. Each season asks for different skills. I see this clearly in my own relationship.I’ve been going to Pilates three times a week with my partner for the past two years, and today I can move my body and feel sensations I simply didn’t have the context for when I started. It didn’t just change my body. It shifted my relationship to my partner. We became a team — holding each other up, holding each other accountable, and sharing each other’s company without distraction. Not because we figured it out.Because we practiced, consistently, over time. Relationships work the same way. The tools that help you fall in love aren’t the same ones that help you stay connected through stress, parenting, illness, aging, grief, or growth. This work is organized around three core pillars.Not as rules or stages, but as practices you return to — again and again — as your relationship and your life evolve. These pillars will show up here as levels you move through. You don’t pass them. You revisit them when the season shifts. Small step:What season does my relationship feel like it’s in right now? No fixing. No pressure.Just noticing. Tomorrow, we begin with Level 1 — Empowerment.
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