WHAT KIND OF A MAN ARE YOU? This question is usually served up as a rhetorical one after we failed to live up to society's expectation of us. Today, I invite you to carefully consider it and sit with it. As a father of children struggling with addiction, my days were spent * paying bills and cleaning up messes * protecting my wife and other children by shielding them from the truth that I felt helpless to save my kid * waiting for the next phone call, terrified that it would be the one that manifested my worst nightmare. * researching the next treatment center, hoping a piece of spaghetti would finally stick to the wall and then wondering how I'm going to pay for it this time * wondering if my wife had given up on me because I failed as a dad. Until one day the question changed from, "How can I save my child?" to " What the fuck has happened to me?' Followed by questions like, What did I miss? Why couldn't I stop this? How can I fix this? The painful truth is that addiction is a disease that extends way beyond a father's control. And when we're unable to see that because of how we see ourselves as protectors and providers, the battle continues. And the casualties continue to pile up. Our health suffers Our job performance declines Our marriages deteriorate Our friendships disappear Our financial resources vanish Our world shrinks until our only purpose becomes managing the chaos. So again, I ask you to consider, If your child's addiction is beyond your control then what kind of man are you? A man whose life rises and falls with every decision your child makes? Or a man who stands fast in the storm? A man who loves hard without enabling A man who leads without controlling A man who sets boundaries without abandoning A man who refuses to lose himself even while his heart is breaking Your child's recovery matters But so does your life And you only have power over one of them. So, I'll ask again: WHAT KIND OF MAN ARE YOU? If you find the answer doesn't sit well with you, I invite to stop in .

@Rose Colbourne Love it. You just blew by me. I only have 5

@Jennifer Turner Thank you Jennifer. If you're comfortable sharing, I'm curious how that has impacted your life moving forward. Sometimes we see the surface story where someone is measuring success by numbers of clients and the size of our bank accounts. They speak of struggles as being about their inabilities to raise the bar on their income as if it's all that matters. Of course I know it isn't but I get to know, like, and trust others by learning what made them bleed to get here.

Tired of Lying in Bed with your back to the woman you love? While Both Of You Wait in Fear for that 2 am phone Call? Been there. And so have several million other dads with addicted children, across the globe who are going through the same thing you are. That's why I created this guide to help you figure out where your marriage stands in all the chaos and , more importantly what you can do about it. Just drop into the free community built specifically for you and find out what an Anchored Father would do. Click the link, answer a couple questions and once you're in, type "marriage" in the comment space.https://www.skool.com/reclaim-your-house-6089/about Because an Anchored Father doesn't react to fear. He Responds with Strength.

@Janay Trevillion Sounds like an awesome tool. I'm not there yet but interested.

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The Art of War by Sun Tzu.