If you're struggling to find the right relationship or are on the edge of giving up hope, then this story of how penguins pick their partner is going to give you hope to hang in there… The Antarctica is full of endless white ice and rocks. They all look the same. Yet penguins see it differently. When a penguin searches for their true love, it's no casual choice. They embark on a quest to search for the perfect pebble. They waddle for miles among thousands of stones, spending days and weeks searching for the right pebble. Not any will do. It has to be the right size, shape, and smoothness to present to their chosen one. All stones might look the same to us, yet the penguin sees uniqueness in everyone. This small gesture is a symbol of their commitment that they never break, and it's a reminder that the most meaningful things in life often require patience, dedication, and the willingness to keep searching because the right stone is waiting for you too.

The relationships your see online aren’t real. The highlight reels… The picture-perfect captions The curated smiles… They’re not real relationships. They’re presentations. And if you spend your life chasing what looks perfect, you’ll miss out on what’s actually real. Here’s the truth… Nobody is perfect. Not you, not them, not anyone. We’re all just humans; trying, failing, learning, and growing. So if you’re waiting for perfection, you’ll wait forever with a list of impossible expectations. A true relationship isn’t about finding someone flawless. A true relationship is about building something meaningful with a person who is imperfect… Imperfect but present. Someone who makes mistakes, while also standing by you when it’s hard, listening when you’re quiet, and not leaving when things get messy. Because at the end of the day, connection is always greater than perfection. A polished image might fade, but the person who knows your scars and still chooses to stay… That’s rare. And that’s real. So don’t throw away something meaningful just because it isn’t perfect. Sometimes the cracks are where the growth happens, where trust deepens, and where the real foundation is built. If you’re ever thinking about giving up, ask yourself: Is it truly broken? Or are you chasing an illusion? Remember, real relationships aren’t perfect… But they’re worth it.

Imagine loving someone so deeply… yet losing them… Not because the love ran out, but because your unwillingness to face yourself got in the way? It’s not our partner’s walls. It’s not their flaws. It’s ours. I see it so often, an unwillingness to confront our own toxic patterns that we'd rather lose the person we love most than put in the work to heal and grow. The refusal to self-reflect. The rejection of accountability. The defensiveness when they try to reach us. The avoidance of the hard conversations. The unwillingness to change behaviours that hurt them over and over. Growth is uncomfortable. It forces us to meet the parts of ourselves we’ve been hiding from. But refusing to grow doesn’t just protect us from discomfort… It traps us in patterns that slowly sabotage the relationship we desperately want to keep. Healing isn’t about perfection. It’s about willingness. Willingness to listen. Willingness to learn. Willingness to own your impact. What are you being unwilling and what is your unwillingness costing you right now?

Hi I'm Eve. Thanks Ed for creating this group:)