Just had my first haircut in ages...
The hairdresser didn't hold back: "Mate, I've seen your videos. What were you thinking with that long hair?" 😅 Take a look at the before and after photos below… What do you think?! I mentioned this on my Relationship You Deserve coaching call the other day, because getting a haircut is a great metaphor for “letting go”. You see… As we get older, letting go becomes harder. We get institutionalised by our ways of thinking. Conditioned by our old patterns. And in today's world of black & white content, it's easy to find reasons to stay stuck: "Relationships are too hard" "Everyone's toxic" "It's safer being alone" But here's what I've learned after 20+ years of coaching: When you don't do the work of letting go of past traumas... They just keep showing up in your relationships. Over and over. You start labeling everyone else as the problem. "They're all narcissists" "People can't be trusted" "Dating is impossible these days" It's easier to blame the world than look in the mirror... To think about how YOUR attachment styles create certain behaviors. And to recognise YOUR part in these patterns. In other words… Sometimes the hardest person to face is yourself. But that's where the real growth happens. That's where transformation begins. And as coaches... This is exactly what we help our clients navigate. Not by being perfect examples. (Obviously. See: my recent hair choices 😂) But by being honest about our own journey of letting go. Of facing ourselves. Of doing the work. Because at the end of the day... Whether it's relationships, career, or yes... even hairstyles... Growth starts with letting go.