Taking time to disconnect can help us to regain control of our focus and internal drives. With all the dopamine and adrenaline we get daily from social media, work, family and friends. Our systems need a break periodically. We can't always go on vacation and many have challenges with mediation. Another technique is taking a break from input. Try it out for 15 minutes to an hour let me know how it goes.

A lot of us go through times when we just feel stuck. Sometime it can be the loss of a loved one. Other times it's setback with work. Our personal relationships can be trying. What can help? 3 things I suggest. Talk to someone trustworthy. Someone who listens and doesn't need to fix you. Do something different.. in your day.. in your week anything. Lastly. Move your body. Dance. Walk. Exercise. It doesn't have to be fancy.

How are you feeling about the way you spend your time? One of the most frustrating things for me was working at a job where at the end of the day/week/month I could not put my finger on why I was made to do things a certain way. This was even worse in romantic relationships. I think it goes back to my childhood. In my generation when children asked elders not just parents why we were to do things a certain way the answer was " because I said so". This might explain my opposition to things that don't make sense. Eventually I realized how important knowing your why and better yet starting with it before you set out on a project or big decision left me with more peace at the end of the day. Simon Sinek wrote a whole book on this. It wasn't bad. Consider this your invitation to think about what you want to do today, this week or even further out and why it's really important to you. I find it helpful to even ask why your why matters to get to the root of my why.

The Internal Resource Budget Click the link. Make a copy for yourself and you are ready to go. https://docs.google.com/document/d/1Cj2gYsAnxajRale8rLE1jhWzzfCbLNkq8M15l-g7KaY/edit?usp=sharing

I know I know you probably thought I was talking about romantically dating people from your friend group. I am not going there .. today anyway. When you are meeting up with people you see as romantic and erotic prospects the tendency is to try to impress them. Whether you are interested in a new spicy link up or looking for a long term relationship the urgency in locking them down often feels very real. When it comes to our friends there is a beautiful comfort in being able to do less. Sometimes this is wonderful. I would like to encourage you that it is worth it to make plans that are more robust. Be curious and try to make an effort it helps your friends feel valued and seen. You can do this by flipping through the following ideas. 1. Plan something you think they would enjoy 2. Share an experience with them that you love 3. Plan something together that you both think would be enjoyable 4. Make time to do something that you know they need help with Yes catching up is great and needed. Simple hang outs are the stuff that friendships are built on. Every now and then it's nice to give more than just the pleasure of your company . If you have any ideas let me know below