I am in @Ed JC Smith

I’m a very good coach, however I’m struggling with marketing like most of us- I think. I bought COA program, however I’m struggling with procrastination and I think some internal block that “I don’t deserve it”. I think and worry about what others say, mostly friends and I observed that I’m very slow with posting offers on Instagram. Currently I do coaching sessions with other coach to help me with it. I haven’t create the program yet, and it’s hard for me to focus to create it (is it really, and why is that?). I don’t have much time left for doing it all ( I have a deadline) and my friends started to comment that maybe I should just go to work if I have too much time for thinking. I still focus on few niches rather than one, but thankfully all are linked into one thing - stress. I’m not stressed myself, more worrying or not taking action as fast as I would like to. I try to focus on one thing but always something pops out in my life. Sometimes I think, what’s wrong with me? I have this beautiful opportunity which I may never have again in my life and I’m not using it to its fullest. What’s your advise?

I've never told this story publicly before. But it was a pivotal lesson on my journey to becoming a better coach. Here’s what happened: Probably a decade or more ago now… This woman joined our year-long programme… And from day one, she was trouble with a capital T. She'd wait until the end of each session, then argue with everything I'd said. Not in a curious way… In a combative way. At first, I thought it was quite funny. She seemed oddly attached to me despite the constant disagreements. But then it escalated… She started bringing random people with her to the events who hadn’t paid. And when I'd run sessions, she'd berate me with insults… But then kept showing up to every single event I ran. Eventually I couldn't take it anymore. I stood on a chair, looked her straight in the eyes and said: "Get the f*** out. Close the door. You're not welcome. Please just leave before it gets worse." She had the nerve to ask for a refund. I told her absolutely not… I'd endured far too much already. Extreme? Perhaps. But the reality is as a coach you will get difficult and even abusive clients. And just because they’re paying you it doesn’t mean you have to put up with it. You MUST have boundaries. Crystal clear ones. We often start out worrying about "being too harsh" with clients. Amy, one of our coaching clients, recently told me she was hesitant about setting strict boundaries with a potential client who seemed difficult. But she made a breakthrough when she told him, "The only way is for you to pay upfront." That's growth. On the other hand, if you don’t set boundaries… One problematic client can poison an entire group. I've seen it over and over again. When you take on someone who's not ready or not right, it hurts everyone. The other clients. Your business. And even the difficult client themselves. Point being… Every difficult client shows you a side of yourself that you need to evaluate. Setting boundaries isn't about being mean… It's about ensuring everyone gets what they came for.

One of the things I'll be teaching on Saturday's live training is how to set proper boundaries in your relationships. Because let's be honest... Most people really struggle with this. They let other people's opinions affect their happiness. For example: I recently shared a Reel on Instagram about Hollywood couple Sam Taylor-Johnson and Aaron Taylor-Johnson. (That Reel reached 2.7M views... which shows how many people relate to this.) Here's the story: When they got married, Sam was 45. Aaron was 22. 23-year age gap. And naturally... it caused quite a stir. But 12 years later? They're still together. Still thriving. Why? Because they mastered these 3 mindset shifts: 1. Set boundaries with confidence Whether it's judgment from family, friends, or strangers... remember: Their opinions do not define your worth. Create emotional distance from those who constantly criticise you. Practice saying: "Thank you, I respect your opinion, but I know what's best for me." 2. Focus on your inner circle They both prioritised their own bond over public perception. True connections thrive within, not outside. Surround yourself with people that uplift you and remind you of your values and expectations. 3. Reclaim your narrative Others will always have something to say, but you control the story you tell yourself. Shift the focus inward: Are you happy? Are you growing? That's all that matters. Because no matter what others think, your life is yours to live. Look... If you're tired of letting others' opinions affect your relationships... Then you really need to join me this Saturday for my new live training: "The 3 Problems Stopping You Getting The Relationship You Deserve & How To Fix It Without Years Of Therapy" Because there's so much more I have to share which can help you get the relationship you deserve: * Whether that's the romantic relationship you deserve * The friends and family relationships you deserve * Or even the relationships with coaching clients you deserve

Hey do we want to organise a meet up regularly to continue practicing? Has anyone got a zoom account who can do break out rooms? Would Google meet work? Whose in? X