Cognitive distortions are sneaky. They show up in everyday thoughts and quietly make things feel worse than they are. The good news is you can challenge them with simple, practical habits. So let's deal with the last four from the opening post and start taking action toward a more structured and balanced outlook. A quieter mind is the foundation of a strong mindset. 1. Watch out for “should” statements.When you tell yourself “I should be doing better,” or “I should have this figured out by now,” you’re setting rigid rules that often ignore reality. Life is messy. Replace “should” with something more honest: “I’d like to improve at this,” or “I’m still learning.” That small shift turns pressure into progress. 2. Stop labelling yourself.Making a mistake doesn’t make you “a failure.” Forgetting something doesn’t mean you’re “useless.” Labels turn one moment into a permanent identity. Instead, describe the situation: “That didn’t go so well,” or “I didn't handle that as well as I'd have liked.” Behaviours can change. Labels make it feel like you can’t.. 3. Feelings are real, but they aren’t always facts.It’s easy to think “I feel like everyone is judging me, so they must be.” Emotions are signals, not proof. Pause and ask: “What evidence do I actually have?” Often the story in our heads is much harsher than reality. 4. Stop discounting the small wins.If you completed a task, showed up when it was hard, or improved even slightly, that counts. Many people brush these off with “It’s nothing” or “Anyone could do that.” But progress is usually built from small steps, not big breakthroughs.5 Give yourself a bit of credit, big yourself up, it's not a crime to feel good about progress and achievement. 5. Practice balanced thinking.When you catch a distorted thought, ask three quick questions: - What evidence supports this thought? - What evidence goes against it? - What would I say to a friend thinking this way? You don’t need perfect thinking. You just need more balanced thinking.

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As well as going through how the mind works, how it can be your best mate or worst enemy I'll discuss things that have happened to me and what experiences I've had over the past few years to get to a place where I'm performing OK. Only OK you say? Well yeah, it's a work in progress, I have days where I feel pretty confident in my own abilities, I feel. I'm a decent coach and body builder and days where, to put it bluntly, I feel fake, imposter syndrome visits and I have a hour or so over thinking, second guessing myself and being over critical. So what happens when I get like that? We'll what used to happen would be I'd become grumpy, frustrated and very insular, generally not be great to be around. The biggest issue though was firstly, I wasn't really aware of my mood changing until I was neck deep it and secondly I didn't understand the mental mechanics so had no idea how to combat it. So, the first step, in my opinion is to get familiar with who you are, get to know you, I mean honestly strip yourself down to the bone mentally but, I mean a huge BUT have some compassion and empathy with yourself. We tend to be our harshest critics, self talk to ourselves in such a way it would be considered emotional abuse if you spoke to anyone else like it. Don't do this, it doesn't help, it compounds negative feelings you might already have. Also, don't try and do it in an afternoon or couple of days. Remember your a human being, so you have all the frailty that goes with it. What I started to do was try to be more aware of my thoughts, the brain churns these out daily, tens of thousands if them but as you get into this, you'll likely find that some appear regularly, so start observing them, especially the negative ones, see when they turn up, when you're tired, hungry, frustrated or maybe a negative interaction with someone. Don't judge the thought on being right or wrong, just look at it and see if you can see what triggers it. Observing the thought gives you a bit of space to ask questions of it as in where did this come from, why has it affected me like it has and the most important part, how long am. I prepared to feel like this about it? Be honest, after all this is a conversation you're having with yourself, no one else has to know unless you decide to share it. But remember that we all only have a certain amount of energy so, the how long, is really important here. A lot of the time we carry a feeling around for hours at great cost, not only to ourselves but those around us, so start to practice letting the go. It's not easy but you can alter the way your brain functions we can break habits, we can build new neurological pathways. This isn't a metaphor or positive talk it's a proven scientific occurrence. The more we challenge preconceived thoughts and replace them with new ones, our brains physically change.

As previously discussed, all have thinking habits that quietly mess with our mood. This post deals with the next three on the list of personalisation, mind reading, and fortune telling. They feel real. They feel convincing. But they’re often just mental shortcuts that create unnecessary stress. Here’s how to deal with them in a practical way. 1. Personalisation – “It’s my fault.” This is when you assume something negative is about you. Your boss looks serious → “I must have done something wrong.” A friend is quiet → “They’re annoyed with me.” Plans fall through → “I ruined it.” How to combat it: Ask: What else could explain this? Most things have multiple causes. Separate what you can control from what you can’t. Look for actual evidence, not feelings. Most of the time, other people are dealing with their own stuff. Not everything is about you. 2. Mind Reading – “I know what they’re thinking.” This is when you assume you know what someone thinks about you — usually something negative. “They think I’m boring.” “They didn’t reply because they’re upset with me" “Everyone noticed I messed up.” The truth? You don’t know, your mind just wants to convince you to stay small, stay safe How to combat it: Replace “They think…” with “I’m guessing they think…” Ask directly if it’s appropriate. Notice how often your guesses turn out wrong. Your brain hates uncertainty. So it fills in blanks. That doesn’t make it accurate. 3. Fortune Telling – “This is going to go badly.” This is predicting a negative outcome without solid evidence. “I’ll fail.” “The meeting will be a disaster.” “There’s no point trying.” It feels like preparation. It’s usually just anxiety talking. How to combat it: Ask: What’s the actual probability? Consider best case, worst case, and most likely case. Focus on what you can do now instead of predicting later. The future isn’t written yet. Your prediction is not a fact. When you catch yourself spiraling, and the more you become aware of your thoughts the more you can intercept them!

Let’s keep this simple. Your brain is powerful — but it isn’t always accurate. When you’re stressed, anxious, overwhelmed, or lin a low mood, your mind can fall into thinking patterns that feel true but aren’t. Here's some help to deal with the first three on the list of the initial Cognitive Distortion Post All-or-nothing thinking Catastrophising Mental filtering The good news? These habits can be changed. Not overnight — but with practice, developing mental strength uses the same basic principles of physical strength, consistency and repetition. The more you can recognise these thoughts, the more you can practice reframing them, the more you practice the stronger the neurological pathways in the brain strengthen and new habits form. 1. All-or-Nothing Thinking (“If it’s not perfect, it’s a failure.”) This is black-and-white thinking. You’re either amazing or useless. The day was either a total win or a complete disaster. There’s no middle ground. What it sounds like: “I messed up that sentence. I’m terrible at presentations.” “I didn’t stick to my plan perfectly, so what’s the point?” “If I can’t do it properly, I won’t do it at all.” How to combat it: Ask yourself: Is there really no middle ground? What would a “partly successful” version look like? If a friend said this about themselves, what would I say back? Replace “always” and “never” with: “Sometimes” “This time” “I’m still learning” Progress beats perfection. Every time. 2. Catastrophising (“This is going to end terribly.”) This is when your brain jumps to the worst-case scenario and treats it as likely. What it sounds like: “If I make a mistake, I’ll lose my job.” “They haven’t replied. They must be angry.” “This headache is probably something serious.” Your brain thinks it’s protecting you by preparing for danger. But most of the time, it’s just amplifying fear. How to combat it: Try the “What else could be true?” exercise: What are three other explanations? What’s the most realistic outcome? If the worst did happen, how would I cope?