When the storm rises, become soft. Run your fingertip lightly over your arm. Slow. Present. You are safe now. 💞 Inspired by blog I wrote, posted below ⬇️ - if it resonates with you, I would love to hear your thoughts and reflections. 🌈 * * * * Yesterday I had a day that tested me. I was scheduled to represent the nonprofit I work for at an in-person wellness fair. I’ve done events like this before and generally find them to be great experiences — talking with strangers, networking with other wellness folx, sharing resources. The day was fortunately dry and sunny — a blessing, since it has been mostly rainy for weeks and we were outside. The site had provided tables, chairs, and canopies, so the effort required on my part was minimal. Still, I hadn’t slept well the night before and felt tired and sleepy as I left for the hour-long drive into town. When I arrived, I enjoyed being on the community college campus, and I was even more pleased to discover the hosts had provided coffee and donuts — exactly what I was craving. I don’t usually drink coffee. I’m very clear that it aggravates my anxiety. I allow myself to enjoy it about once a week as a treat. As I poured a cup, I felt a gentle inner nudge that maybe this wasn’t the best choice. But sugar is the universal panacea, and in a slightly uncomfortable setting, it felt like a welcome jolt. About an hour in, I could tell my body was not reacting well to the sugar-caffeine combo. I was animated and jolly, and I genuinely enjoyed the event. I caught up with familiar faces — welcome connections in a place where I haven’t made many in the two years I’ve lived here. I made new connections too, spoke about my own wellness journey and business, and shared information about the services offered by the nonprofit I was representing. I was gifted a free lunch — chili and rice — and an ice cream at the end. Overall, it was a good day. But when it ended, I was scheduled to go into the office for the rest of the afternoon.

When it comes to wanted and unwanted thoughts, it really only takes about 17 seconds to begin attracting another thought like the one you’re holding right now. Seventeen seconds. ⏰ If you can hold a thought — especially a wanted thought — in your mind for just 17 seconds, your mind will automatically begin reaching for another thought that feels similar. And the opposite is true too. Have you ever noticed that when you start thinking something negative, more negative thoughts seem to pile on? Almost like they’re being attracted to each other? It can feel like a tidal wave. 🌊 One thought becomes two. Two becomes ten. And suddenly you’re overwhelmed. That’s momentum. 🔄 So what if we worked with that on purpose? Instead of trying to jump to the “best thought you’ve ever had,” what if you asked: What is the best-feeling thought I can reach for in this moment? Not the most positive. Not the most enlightened. Just the best-feeling one available right now. Maybe it’s something simple. The sound of birds outside. Watching your cat groom itself. A branch moving in the breeze. The way the light hits the wall. Sometimes focusing outside of ourselves helps interrupt the spiral and gives the mind something softer to hold. Or maybe you imagine a place where you feel peaceful. A beach. 🏖️ A quiet stream. Your favorite chair. 🪑 A hammock in the backyard. A vacation memory where you felt completely at ease. 🌄 Can you take yourself there? Notice the light. The temperature of the air. The colors. Maybe even a scent on the breeze. And just stay with it. If you can hold that image, that feeling, for about 17 seconds, your mind will naturally begin reaching for another thought like it. That’s momentum working for you. 🔄 Whether we’re focusing on a better-feeling thought or a worse-feeling thought, the principle is the same: What we give our attention to grows in momentum. ⬅️ This practice is about gently directing the imagination. Not forcing positivity. Just the best feeling thought you can find in this moment only. 💭

Aloha Y'all! Its time to schedule our first Community Cafe' Chat, BYOB (bring your own brew - coffee☕, tea 🫖 or whatever suits your fancy! 🧋) Here are some times that work for me, let me know by the poll what times would work for you! Obviously we are all over the map, so no time will work for EVERYone, but lets get started! I am planning to schedule more than one session per week, so please help me out 🔄Thursday Tap In: 3p EST or 5p EST 🌈 Aloha Friday Coffee Chat: 3p EST or 5p EST 🌄Saturday Somatic Reset: 5p EST or 7p EST 🌟Sunday Soul Alignment Session: 5p EST or 7p EST I would love to create a blooming community where we can support one another, share our journeys and experience the joy of co-regulating in real time! I am really excited for where this will take us next! Mahalo nui, Daphne 🌈

Aloha Cafe' Crew! As we approach this cosmic event in just a few days - the New Moon Lunar Eclipse 🌚 and Chinese New Years (Year of the Fire Horse) 🔥🐎on February 17th, I have felt the need to go inward. A deep shedding is underway, as the Year of the Snake 🐍 closes out, and Saturn leaves Watery Dreamy Pieces where she has been for the past 2 1/2 years, and charges into Fiery Aries Energy for real this time, hang on to your hats this will be a bumpy ride all the way through to 2028 (but we already knew that!) This moment is a time of reckoning, of clearing out the old (outdated beliefs and self limiting thinking) to make peace with what we are letting go, and making space for the new. I have been lighting candles, and physically cleaning house. Energetically preparing for the next phase. 🧽🕯️ (Tomorrow I will burn some incense, but only if its not raining too hard - the cat hates incense and she has been staying in and sleeping alot all weekend!) I have been going through a bit of tough time this past month over here. Feeling some real loneliness from time to time, and visioning my next steps as I transition into Empty Nest as a Solo gal. I have my ups and downs, like anyone. Sometimes I am super excited about creating, sometimes I need a retreat. And part of being good to myself is I dont shame myself for taking time off to rest and reset. 🔄 And thus, I have been pretty quiet online thus past week. I have been reflecting on what I am creating in this space, and what impact it has. Our little group is small but mighty, so I want to ask you - what would YOU like to see in this space? Nervous system regulation tools, like tapping videos, breathwork or yoga nidra? Yoga philosophy? Daily inspiration? A gentle daily check in? Daily card pull for the collective? Musings from my cat? 🐱 (she is pretty chatty as my IT lives friends know lol) Weekly live cafe' chat right here in the Skool app, where we can interact on video? I think that would be fun! I will post a poll to find a time that works. 📊

As the week winds down, let’s notice the fireflies. A small moment, a quiet win, a breath, a spark of steadiness. What glimmered for you this week — even briefly? You can name one… or simply read along and let it count.