Family, fighting for my child’s education and building my community. Health should be up there but I simply can’t prioritise that, I want to but it’s not possible. Oh and as my dear old mum would say “a little of what you fancy does you good” enjoy your ice cream!

When on my ADHD meds the thoughts I’m guided by are positive and I’m so ready to be productive, I’m frustrated when I can’t do things. When my meds wear off, I’m guided by fear, self doubt and negativity. I am held hostage by hormone deficiency! Just trying to show that sometimes people can be blameless for negative thinking. What’s interesting is that I can body double off my meds and achieve the same as I do on my meds. The power of a good mentor/coach/teacher/parents is remarkable.

@Anthony Patierno I haven’t but it’s a great suggestion! I will look into it.

@Anthony Patierno I think it’s about actively working on attunement. I’m lucky as I have autistic intuition (6th sense) so I pick up on micro pattern recognition and can easily see what someone needs. I’m also very empathetic (to my own detriment) so I feel what others feel. This then means it’s a need for me to help someone rather than a choice. However, it was clear you also have a skill for seeing what others don’t obviously express. Parental attunement can be natural but also it can be learnt. Emotional availability, mirroring, co regulation and restorative approach’s are the main areas. Packaging this for docs/content would just take a brain storming session I reckon.

@Anthony Patierno sounds like a plan 🙌

I believe it’s life, it breaks emotional capacity often without the person realising. This leads to guilt and often toxic shame. We start our day believing the words of a coach/mentor/parent/teacher but by breakfast everything can change. I kind of look it at as people/places and things become consistency snatchers, leaving someone unable to be consistent. To the person they only notice their inability/perceived failure to show up. There is usually so much evidence as to why consistency was unachievable, it’s just that a mentor/coach/parent needs to able to highlight and help change those things. What people, places and things steal your ability to be consistent 🤔 mines doom scrolling, the kids and shopping centres. I do not try and achieve consistency on days where I’m going to be thrown off course, hence avoiding guilt/shame. I gain more consistency by online shopping, working when kids are in bed and avoiding my phone.

@Anthony Patierno yes I think I’ll ask the kids to assist me with my phone, great suggestion.