Hey guys Firstly, my deepest appreciation to all of you for being part of the group, especially those who interact on the feed and bring some ideas and life into the discussions. I have analytics on Skool that show me many of you are "lurking" - I can see that people read posts and visit the group, occasionally comment (usually when I'm doing some sort of free giveaway), but otherwise don't really post or support others with comments. I want to know what I can do to improve that. I want this to be a place where you feel encouraged and safe to participate actively, help others and share your experience along the way. I've tried a few things already, like 30 day challenges and polls and giveaways, but most of you remain silent. I know one sure-fire way is to make this group paid-only (remove the free membership tier). This is a last resort for me, but I'm running out of ideas. If you want this group to remain free, comment below (or DM me privately if you're not ready to be seen publicly) and let me know what I can do to increase your active participation. Let's build this thing together and have everyone giving in to the group. Cheers Dan

Choose which of the topics below you'd most like to see addressed by a podcast episode! "Green light syndrome" (needing approval before you take action) won the last vote - the podcast has been recorded and edited, and will be out to you all shortly

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It took more than a decade to get here. My videos never go viral or get major support, but you few who watch and appreciate them make it all worthwhile. Here's to another 5,000!

Having realized a few weeks back, what an emotional flashback was opened up an entire new world for me. Thanks @Slava K for suggesting "Surviing to Thriving "by Pete.W. Not only did the book connect many dots for me, it also gave me practical tips to handle these flashbacks. The main ideas were knowing the Inner Critic - the Outer Critic. The loops they got one into. So at the deepest level was this childhood abandonment depression because of not proper caretaking. And the darkness, dread and depression being too intense, triggers Shame and Fear which brings on a flashback. And the IC or OC starts with its criticizing, and depending on our types we behave with one of the 4F's Fight, Flight, Freeze and Fawn. mostly a combination of the 2 out of the 4. The way out of the flashback, is 1. telling yourself that you're safe and not in any real physical danger. 2. Learning to relax your muscles especially shoulders, facial and back. 3. breathing deeply and slowly 4. learning to do fewer things, more deliberately. 5. Shrinking the IC by using VIsual stop signs and thought redirecting, substitution. 6. Telling yourself you are an adult and you have friends and resources that will come to your aid, if needed 7. The above reduces All or Nothing thinking Drasticising,etc 8. Mindful practices to slow the thinking /ruminating mind. One of the detox activities is to stay away from events or people that trigger you till you have learned to desensitise yourself / your reactions. I had to hold a meeting at our family business office, as the recruitment business had this address. This place is super triggering for me. Also, I've many hurt, angry feelings around this place. Still, had I held the meeting elsewhere, the person would not have taken my business seriously. So It had to be done. And, instead of pissing around it, I took the bull by the horns. I called ahead and told a staff member to have one of the office cabins cleaned. This office is adjacent to where my sister sits, with whom I've blocked communication with and who's in charge of everything.