I had a realization and a message that I needed to share with you. You’ve heard me talk about a dark night of the soul. It feels like you’re being haunted by your past. It can feel like a scary and painful process. But I want to let you know that it’s absolutely necessary to move on to the next step. You shouldn’t fight it and you should accept it and allow it to happen. It’s a realization that everything starts with you. All the trials, tribulations, and problems within your life all start with yourself and your own actions. You can no longer blame others for the outcome of your life. You played your part. You made your choices. You engaged in every fight, every argument, every negative action and interaction required your participation. Once you realize this, you also realize that you can disengage and you don’t have to participate. So the dark night of the soul is nothing more than an awakening to the harm that you’re doing to yourself. I don’t believe you’ve truly experienced this yet. Which is why you continue to project and blame. Notice lately that I can express unhappiness with your actions and words, but you are not to blame for my experience. I choose my level of participation now. When it doesn’t serve me, I disengage. It doesn’t mean I don’t love you or I’m leaving you behind. it means I’m not gonna participate in your self sabotage. If anything I will contemplate how to help you see what it is exactly that you’re doing to yourself. Speaking frankly, if you’re harming yourself, you’re harming me and those around you that love you. No one wants to see you suffer. But you have free will. No one controls the choices you make but you. It all starts with you. The change you seek is within you. Your dark night is near. Allow yourself to “feel” it. And yes it’s scary and heartbreaking 💔 but you will be fine if you don’t fight it. Know that is just opening your heart to true understanding and better things to come.