Let's get raw for a second. ​How many of you spent the last 20 or 30 years calling yourself "lazy," "undisciplined," or "unmotivated"? ​Maybe you worked the oil fields, ran a business, or white-knuckled your way through a career, only to hit age 40 and feel like the wheels are coming off. Suddenly, the ADHD symptoms aren't just annoying—they’re paralyzing. ​I’ve been there. I wasn’t diagnosed until I was 38. I spent nearly four decades wondering why I could weld a perfect seam or handle a crisis, but couldn't seem to "just get off the couch" to do the dishes or answer an email. ​That isn't a lack of willpower. It’s Functional Freeze. ​The Three Walls We Hit After 40: 1. ​The Executive Function Tax: Our brains have been "over-clocking" for decades. Now, the nervous system is exhausted. That’s why it feels like your ADHD is getting worse. It’s not—your battery is just drained. 2. Task Paralysis: You know what you need to do. You have the skills. But your brain is calculating every single micro-step, leading to total overwhelm. You stay on the couch not because you’re lazy, but because your "engine" is flooded. 3. ​The RSD Sting: Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria. After years of feeling "missed" by doctors and "judged" by society, every perceived slight or failure feels like physical pain. It makes us want to isolate. ​Why This Community Matters ​We are the "Missed Generation." We grew up in an era where you just "toughed it out." But you don't have to white-knuckle it anymore. ​In this group, we’re trading the "shame" for clinical tools and brotherhood. Whether it’s somatic work to break a freeze or CBT strategies to manage the chaos, we do it together. ​Drop a comment below if you’ve ever felt that "Functional Freeze." What’s the one task that always seems to trigger your paralysis? ​Let’s get to work.

I have a lot I can add to the classroom, however I'm curious what kind of things you might want to see in there? How do you learn? Us guys with ADHD don't usually learn the same way as your average Skool communities... Like I'm not really a big fan of reading a ton of stuff nowadays, I would much rather learn through something interactive or videos, I don't mind doing short worksheets and that kind of stuff but I like things that are more interactive. What are your thoughts? What kind of learner are you?

Personally I have masked for so many years the idea of stimming is something fairly new to me... Since I mask so well I have a hidden stim where I cross one toe over another constantly! I did it so much one day that it affected my leg and I was limping for a week!

One of my passions is making videos, they are still a work in progress but each one gets a little better, please watch and tell me what you think 🙏