This week we talked about the 4 Stages of Dating (the 4 Ss) and the Relationship Journey. - Scouting: You are expanding your opportunities to meet potential partners. - Sorting: “Who deserves more of my time and attention?” - Screening: You’re now looking beneath attraction and surface compatibility to assess long-term relationship potential. - Testing: Reveals whether the connection can survive outside the honeymoon phase. Healthy relationships tend to move through very specific stages — and most people get stuck because they either rush the process… or skip stages entirely. Here’s the framework I teach: 1️⃣ Stranger This is before you even meet someone. It's about who you’re BEING, how you show up, how open you are, and whether your life actually allows space for connection. This is the stage of:• Visibility• Energy• Mindset• Standards• Openness• Scouting opportunities intentionally. 2️⃣ Curious Prospect You’ve met someone and there’s mutual curiosity. This is NOT the stage to fantasize about the future. It’s the stage for:• Observation• Light exploration• Paying attention• Noticing consistency• Seeing how they show up The goal is not attachment. The goal is information. 3️⃣ Interested Match Now there’s growing interest and emotional investment. This is where you begin:• Screening for compatibility• Discussing values and lifestyle• Looking at emotional maturity• Watching for alignment between words and actions This is where many people ignore red flags because chemistry takes over. 4️⃣ Exclusive Relationship You’ve intentionally chosen to focus on one another. Now the work becomes:• Building trust• Navigating conflict• Emotional safety• Communication• Integration into each other’s lives A lot of people want exclusivity before true compatibility has even been established. 5️⃣ Committed Partnership This is where long-term alignment matters most. Not just love — but:• Shared vision• Emotional resilience• Partnership skills• Mutual effort• The ability to grow together through real life

We start at 6 PM EDT. Register to get the Zoom Link. In this free 60-minute masterclass, I'm going to show you exactly what's been getting in the way, and how to finally change it. You'll walk away knowing: - The formula for anything you want - The 4 Ss of smart dating - How to evaluate a new match - The mindset shift that makes dating feel like play instead of drudgery. This is for you if: You're in your second chapter of life. You're done settling, you're ready to attract your person. Best, Dessi

Mother's Day isn't simple for everyone. Some have complicated relationships. Some of us are grieving. Some are mothers, navigating this stage of life as a single parent. How are you actually feeling today — no filter?

Quick reminder to save your spot. In our upcoming session, What to Look for in a Partner: 12 Must-Have Qualities, we’re going to cut through the noise and focus on what actually matters when you’re looking for a real, lasting relationship. *********************** When: Tuesday, May 5th at 6 PM EDT Where: Register to get the link in your email. The session is online over Zoom.

Starting tomorrow, we’re introducing something new inside The Dating Reboot (Premium Tier)! We’ll be working with the principles of Positive Intelligence — not as theory, but as a way to understand how we show up in our dating lives and the choices we make. Because most of what creates frustration in dating isn’t out there. It's internal. It's patterned. And often, it’s invisible. Over the next year, each month, we’ll focus on one of the 10 Saboteurs — the internal voices and patterns that quietly shape how we think, feel, and act: The Judge, the Pleaser, the Victim, the Hyper-Vigilant, the Avoider etc. How they show up in dating. How they influence attraction, chemistry, and decision making. How they keep us stuck in familiar cycles. And most importantly, how to become aware of them, interrupt them, and begin to shift. We are starting with The Judge - The universal saboteur. This work is about seeing clearly. And from that place, making different choices. Join Premium today - only $27/mo or $197 for a full year. Prices go up in May. See you inside!