Starting tomorrow, we’re introducing something new inside The Dating Reboot (Premium Tier)! We’ll be working with the principles of Positive Intelligence — not as theory, but as a way to understand how we show up in our dating lives and the choices we make. Because most of what creates frustration in dating isn’t out there. It's internal. It's patterned. And often, it’s invisible. Over the next year, each month, we’ll focus on one of the 10 Saboteurs — the internal voices and patterns that quietly shape how we think, feel, and act: The Judge, the Pleaser, the Victim, the Hyper-Vigilant, the Avoider etc. How they show up in dating. How they influence attraction, chemistry, and decision making. How they keep us stuck in familiar cycles. And most importantly, how to become aware of them, interrupt them, and begin to shift. We are starting with The Judge - The universal saboteur. This work is about seeing clearly. And from that place, making different choices. Join Premium today - only $27/mo or $197 for a full year. Prices go up in May. See you inside!

Hi everyone, Thank you again to those of you who joined us for The Blueprint to Dating in Midlife session. It was a rich conversation, and if you were there live, you probably felt how universal so many of the experiences were. Frustration. Confusion. Fatigue. Hope. If you missed any part of it, or want to revisit the key ideas, you can watch the replay here: CLICK HERE FOR REPLAY A few things that stood out from the session: - Most people are trying to fix dating at the level of strategy - where to meet people, what to say, how to text. - But the deeper shift happens at the level of identity. - Who you are being when you date, how you show up → shapes who you attract → and what you ultimately experience. We also introduced a more intentional way to approach dating: Scouting → Sorting → Screening → Testing A structure that helps you protect your time, your energy, and your heart— while still staying open to connection. If you’re ready to go deeper, here are a few ways to work with us: With me (Dessi): • Private 1:1 Coaching • Upcoming 12-week Group Program (starting May 4th) You can book a complimentary call with me here to see which is the best fit: https://calendly.com/dschachne/30min With Moshe: You can learn more or reach out to him here: https://www.coachmoshe.com/ Take your time with the replay. And if one idea stays with you, let it be this: You don't control the timing, but you do control if and how you participate in the dating process. Talk soon, Dessi

Topic: 10 Things to Do Before You Start Dating Again If you’ve been thinking about dating again — or you’re already out there and not getting much traction— tonight’s call will help you reset. There are a few foundational steps that make dating feel calmer, clearer, and far more successful — especially at this stage of life. On tonight’s Dating Re-Entry call, we’ll cover: ✨ The 10 essential things to do before dating again✨ - Why skipping these steps leads to burnout and mixed signals - How to date with confidence instead of overthinking - Set yourself up for an aligned, emotionally healthy connection. 🗓 Tonight – Dating Re-Entry Call⏰ (6 PM EST)📍Here on Skool - See calendar for the LINK. PS: This call is for Members of the Dating Inner Circle (Premium Tier) - check out our plans here. Warmly, Dessi

"The greatest skill you can develop is the ability to stay in a great mood in the absence of things to be in a great mood about." Love this quote from Alex Hormozi so much. Finding the gift or the opportunity in every challenge will get you to your desired goal or emotional state so much faster than indulging in a negative emotion. 💪💥🤩

I was in contact with a man for a week or so and asked him if his photos were up to date. He replied yes “2 or 3 years” old. So after a lot of back and forth he agreed to forward a recent photo. As we continued our conversation things went sour when I began asking questions: ie do you have children, ru single, were you married, why did you move? He goes ape shit and hangs up on me! I did text him saying “Obviously we are not a match .. However I find it interesting that as a “journalist” when the tables were turned you hung up on me!” And this is what he replied: “My profession has nothing to do when someone is insulting and disrespectful … please leave me alone.” I don’t know what I said that was such a turn off??? PS never got an updated picture…. Any thoughts?