Our Premium Member Call is July 7th at 6 PM EDT - See Calendar for link. This is a bi-weekly call, where we open the floor for your questions, dating dilemmas, and personal experiences. Last month, we talked about the PLEASER SABOTEUR — the voice that criticizes you, doubts others, and keeps you stuck in loops of second-guessing and self-protection. This month, we are discussing the HYPER-VIGILANT: always scanning for danger, protecting you from getting hurt, rejected, or blindsided. Often, mistakes uncertainty for danger. These mental patterns quietly drive your thoughts, reactions, and decisions, especially in dating. 🗓 July 7th Dating Reboot Call ⏰ (6 PM EDT). Comment below on how the Hypervigilant might show up in your dating life. It might look like: - Looking for red flags before you've gathered enough information. - Assuming the worst - Struggling to relax or be present on dates because you're evaluating everything. - Interpreting ambiguity as rejection. - ...we unpack all this and more. If you recognize yourself in any of this, join us! Warmly, Dessi ---------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- PS: This call is for Members of The Dating Reboot (Premium Tier). If you wish to join, click here. _____________________________________________________

Because they filter your options, often without you noticing them. When you name a belief, you reclaim your agency, and your power to choose reappears. Pick one situation today that feels difficult and identify the belief beneath it (this practice can sometimes be a little uncomfortable). USE THE AIR FRAMEWORK - Awareness: What belief is driving your choice in this moment? - Inquiry: Where did this belief come from? How has it served you? How is it trying to protect you? - Reframing: What’s a more helpful belief you can try today? TODAY'S EXPERIMENT Research suggests that writing down your beliefs can help you reduce stress and improve your well-being. Open the note you started on your phone yesterday and write one limiting belief in a single sentence (“I believe that…”). Then write a helpful alternate version that makes you feel safer and expands your choices. Hit Reply and tell me the old line, the new one, or both.

Especially when the problem is the state you're in. Have you ever caught yourself replaying the same conversation, the same email, or the same argument over and over, convinced that if you just replay it enough times, you'll finally figure it out? Sometimes that's true. But often, you're just going around in circles. One of the simplest things you can do is get up and go for a walk. Not because the walk magically solves the problem—but because it changes you. Your breathing slows. Your body starts moving. Your attention widens. The story in your head loses a little of its grip. Research by Jeffrey Miller and Zlatan Krizan found that even a brief walk can boost positive emotions—even when people don't expect it to. I've noticed this in my own life more times than I can count. I'll head out feeling frustrated, anxious, or stuck, and somewhere along the way the problem doesn't necessarily disappear... but I begin to see it differently. And that's often enough. We spend so much time trying to think our way into feeling better. Sometimes the fastest path is to move your body first. What is your preferred type of movement? Walk, run, bike, swim, yoga...Please comment below. Have you noticed how it impacts your mental state?

June 30th at 6 PM EDT Ever wish you could get personalized coaching on the one thing that's keeping you stuck? This Meetup is all about YOU. We'll be doing Live Coaching Hot Seats, where volunteers can come on and receive short, focused coaching on whatever challenge they're facing. You can bring questions about: ❤️ Dating & relationships 💬 Communication 🚩 A situation you're unsure how to handle 💔 Getting over a breakup 🌱 Confidence and self-worth...or anything else that's on your mind. REGISTER HERE for the Zoom Link. Even if you don't volunteer, you'll be surprised how much you learn from watching others get coached. Often, someone else's question is exactly the one you didn't know you needed answered. There is no pressure to participate. You can simply listen, learn, and connect with an incredible group of people who are all navigating life's next chapter together. I can't wait to see you this evening!

Ever wish you could get personalized coaching on the one thing that's keeping you stuck? Tomorrow's Meetup is all about YOU. We'll be doing Live Coaching Hot Seats, where volunteers can come on and receive short focused coaching on whatever challenge they're facing. You can bring questions about: ❤️ Dating & relationships 💬 Communication 🚩 A situation you're unsure how to handle 💔 Getting over a breakup 🌱 Confidence and self-worth...or anything else that's on your mind. REGISTER HERE for the Zoom Link. Even if you don't volunteer, you'll be surprised how much you learn from watching others get coached. Often, someone else's question is exactly the one you didn't know you needed answered. There is no pressure to participate. You can simply listen, learn, and connect with an incredible group of people who are all navigating life's next chapter together. I can't wait to see you tomorrow evening!