Well this awkward 😳 😬. But here goes to "why not". My name is Michele, people call me Mich or Phoenix. I answer to both. I am healing from betrayal trauma. 1 year into it. After a 22 year marriage. I am 59 and a retired flight attendant. I own a Christian coffee shop in Houston/Conroe Texas. I'm looking to date or befriend again, I think? Let's get straight to it, I had "black coffee, no sugar, no cream... now I want a cappuccino with all the cream!" Thank you for this safe place.

This is your invitation to a gentle 30-Day Online Dating Re-Entry. "Dating Sunday" (the first Sunday in January) is known as the busiest day of the year for online dating. If you’ve been thinking about trying online dating again (or for the first time) but feel hesitant, out of practice, or quietly overwhelmed, this is for you. Rather than letting that feel intimidating, I’m inviting you to approach it differently this year. More slowly. More intentionally. More like you. This 30-day Re-Entry is not about finding “the one” in a month. It’s about re-entering the online dating world while caring for your nervous system and developing new sustainable habits for the long run. Each week has a gentle theme. Each day includes a short reflection or invitation. Nothing time consuming. No pressure to perform. You can participate quietly or share in the community if that feels supportive. This is especially for those of you who are starting a new chapter after divorce, loss, or a long break from dating. You don’t need to catch up. You don’t need to reinvent yourself. You just need a safe place to begin again. DETAILS (for those who want them): • Starts: Sunday, January 4 - Feb 2nd, 2026 • Length: 30 days • Live Calls: Right here on Skool 💚 Cost: $17 — for full access to live calls, tools, and resources If this feels like a relief rather than a push, that’s your signal. You don’t have to decide anything today. If you’re curious, or want me to share details privately, just comment “curious” or “tell me more.” You’re not late. You’re right on time.

Dear members, Our community is officially getting a new name and theme!! Real Talk for Singles 50+ is now → Find Love After 50 [aka FLAF]. Along with that, you may have noticed a "subtle" Seinfeld-inspired vibe... (I still find that show hilarious after all those years). Why the change? Dating does not need to feel heavy, frustrating, or soul-sucking. Many of you are thoughtful, accomplished, emotionally aware humans… and yet dating can start to feel like a second job with terrible benefits. So I’m rebranding the community with a clear intention (and to set the example) 👉 More fun. Less formality. 👉 More playfulness. Less overthinking. 👉 More courage to take risks and show up as your bold self. Less wondering what people will think of you. “Real Talk” served us well, but this next chapter is more forward-looking. It’s about momentum, possibility, not just talking, but actually making some bold moves. I'm giving you permission to experiment, laugh, and stop playing it so safe that nothing changes. Humor helps us loosen up, take risks, and stop treating dating like a referendum on our worth. So I want your honest take. Quick poll 👇 How does the new name and theme land for you? Feel free to comment if you want to say more. This community is a co-creation, and your feedback genuinely matters. Because dating after 50 should feel more like eating a big salad…and less like waiting around at Monk’s wondering if you'll ever land a table. — Dessi

I know that many of you are taking this week off from the usual routines and to-dos. Perhaps you're taking stock of the past year and assessing the path you have walked. Remember that you've accomplished a lot. Even if it doesn't feel like it. Remember, you are worthy of love. You are worthy of appreciation. And are WORTHY of feeling like you've done enough. Take time for yourself and celebrate how far you've come. No matter where you are. 💜 Dessi xo

Not listening to music today, but I enjoyed hearing Laughey. Watching the movie American Psycho. Have never seen it before. Quite peculiar. Worth watching to see what ever happens.