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ADVENT CALENDAR CHALLENGE DAY 9!
Wooo almost missed this one. Today's challenge revolves around: The stories I tell myself Finish this sentence: "Dating is hard because...." Then write a gentler, more neutral version of that story. Share them in the comments down below or feel free to make a separate post!
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Dating is hard because of expectations. Some people expect to have a conversation on a first date whereby they just determine if the other person checks all the boxes for potential for a long-term relationship, which is the practical, and frankly, correct approach. And some people expect to feel "sparks," "chemistry," or some other intangible and misleading bs, and if they don't feel that right away, further communication is not worth pursuing.
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@Shelley Badayos it would be hard for them too because they're looking for the "sparks" and not often finding them presumably, but they bring that hardship on themselves by making it a prerequisite for continuing to date someone. Is there a way I can be gentler or neutral? No. It would be like trying to find common ground and agreement with someone who believes all pregnant women have to give birth regardless of circumstances. If you're on the logically and morally wrong side of an issue, there is no room for empathy.
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ADVENT CALENDAR DAY 6!
It's time for our Advent Calendar challenge! List your top 5 relationship values. Circle ONE you want to embody more this month. Does your behavior match these values? Feel free to share and/or comment them down below!
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1. Commitment 2. Loyalty 3. Communication 4. Wanting the same things 5. Enjoying each other's company My behavior matches that in a relationship.
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ADVENT CALENDAR CHALLENGE DAY 3!
Happy Thursday! It's time for the DAY 4 OF THE ADVENT CALENDAR CHALLENGE! List 3 things you want to feel in a relationship, and 3 things you won't tolerate again. The more we know, the more we will be able to discern if someone is right for us.
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Three things I want to feel: 1. A connection 2. Appreciated 3. Secure Three things I won't tolerate (again): 1. Lack of communication 2. Not having the same goals for a relationship 3. Putting in all the effort
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@Shelley Badayos Thanks, Shelley! <3
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ADVENT CALENDAR CHALLENGE - DAY 2
Write down 3 patterns you notice in your love life. Circle the one you're most ready to change (if you’re journaling it). Feel free to share it down in the comments below or make your own post!
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1. I get emotionally invested before I should. 2. I don't get the kind of women I really want. 3. Women flake out before dates or after a few dates.
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@Shelley Badayos the first I suppose since I don't have much control over the other two
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Q&A Tuesday!
Goodmorning and Happy Tuesday! I’m opening this thread for any DATING questions you have. Comment them down below 👇🏻
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@Shelley Badayos that's even worse. I hate when women tell me "I don't feel any chemistry/spark" because it's so vague and not at all helpful. I think I have PTSD from how many times I've heard that.
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@Shelley Badayos well, she's a cool a person, and we have common interests, so I want to be her friend. I just get the sense she wants more than that. I haven't made any moves on her, nor her on me, so I think it's fine for now, but push comes to shove sometimes.
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