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Who did you have to be as a kid to receive the love or approval of mom and dad? Perfect? Quiet? A pleaser? Self reliant? This right here is one of the biggest shifts I see people have in coaching or at live events The roles we took on as a kid become the subconscious identity as an adult For me I adopted a role of “pleaser” due to having a controlling hard to please step mom If I could ease tension I could feel “safe” My dad had that pattern too and modeled it by not challenging or being assertive in his relationship For me to break this pattern I had to become “BAD” to the old role To be “good” meant to abandon myself, to make others happy, etc BAD was being selfish, expressing my emotions, setting boundaries, etc For me to create this SHIFT… I had to lean into tension and express the real me I had to take on the values of "authenticity" and “vulnerability” I had to catch my desire to ease other people's tension and let them sit with it knowing it is theirs not mine to manage This tension became the initiation into a new me Years ago as I started this shift I had to reconnect to certain friends to express how I felt I had to be honest moving forward over wanting approval It resulted in self respect, self acceptance and feeling safe inside of my own body And the crazy thing… as a result others respected me as a reflection I was able to go deeper with people and felt more connected to myself and THEM Yes some people fell out of my life as a result of this authenticity… and in their place other relationships and friendships formed It's all a part of the process :) What role are you letting go of or becoming aware of? What would be a way of leaning into the tension of breaking that pattern? And who would you be without that pattern? Remember, it's a pattern… NOT you :) Talk to you soon, Aaron (you’re the SOUL not the ROLE) Doughty

hi everyone! great call today! we talked about the real transformation that happens when you stop trying to control your patterns and start accepting the emotions underneath them you may be aware of your people-pleasing, perfectionism, hyper-independence or fixer patterns but awareness alone doesn’t always create freedom these patterns were often created as survival mechanisms at some point, a part of you learned, “If I please, I’ll be loved” “If I’m perfect, I’ll be safe” or “If I do everything myself, I won’t be let down” but the pattern is not who you are. it’s simply something you learned to feel safe letting go isn’t about forcing yourself to change overnight it’s about observing the old pattern, feeling the emotion behind it, and choosing let it go to feel more whole and complete when you stop trying to manage everyone else’s emotions stop needing the outcome to look a certain way and begin accepting where you are right now…you shift into that new version of you that wanted to express itself embodiment begins by loving the part of you that created the pattern, and allowing yourself to become free! AND if you want to continue the transformation and make it STICK permanently! Join The Shift Academy and get all bonuses here including the live kickoff call that starts May 12th! https://www.theshiftexperience.com/tsa-april-20261777109851528 HW for today: 💫 what was your BIGGEST takeaway from today’s call? 💫 how can you let go of your pattern and shift into that new identity? share your insights in the comments below!

hey everyone, today’s call was awesome! we talked about being aware of your patterns… yet you still find yourself repeating them that’s because the pattern isn’t the real issue, it’s protecting you from feeling something deeper whether it’s people pleasing, overthinking, or avoiding conflict, it’s a strategy your nervous system learned a long time ago to feel safe, loved, or in control So instead of asking “why do I keep doing this?” you can go within and ask "what is this protecting me from feeling?” to go even deeper, “who did you have to be to receive love growing up?” that’s the role you learned… and is likely still running your life today know that you are not the role, you are the awareness behind it and the moment you feel what’s underneath and choose to think, feel and act differently that’s where transformation begins and your pattern breaks! HW for today: 🌟what was your biggest insights from today’s call? ⭐show up to the live call on monday for more live coaching share it all in the comments below! p.s if you want to continue the transformation and make it STICK permanently…join The Shift Academy! the live kickoff call that starts May 12th! here’s the invite: https://www.theshiftexperience.com/tsa-april-20261777109851528

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